“Oh, he’s taken? Challenge accepted!” So is there something about a wedding ring that makes a man seem nicer, smarter, funnier, and just overall more desirable. Is it because a man who is already taken is more experienced? Is he seen as able to commit? Is he more desirable because another woman has pre-screened him? For some, the food on someone else’s plate dalways looks tastier. If someone else wants him, he must be worth wanting.
They have amazing PR managers in their girlfriend
Interestingly the more a woman praises her partner as smart, funny and caring, the more she – often unknowingly – fans the flames of mate poaching by her female friends. Ladies, watch your back.
The most practical explanation why the attached men seem the most attractive is that they already possess most of the qualities women seek in a partner – only they have been discovered by other women first. Thus such guys may or may not be attractive but they are more likely to have stable jobs, wealth and a healthy sense of responsibility.
Women like what is popular
It is one of the quirks of the female nature to want what someone else has. The very fact that a guy is wanted at least by one woman – his current girlfriend – makes him hot or at least interesting enough to be desired by others.
They are considered ‘safe’
Once a guy is taken, women find it easier to open up to their hearts to them. Thus a guy may find his girlfriend’s friend pouring out her relationship woes, car troubles, job issues and even PMS symptoms to him; indeed he may even be moved to offer a shoulder of support one time too many. Eventually the intimacy emerging from this kind friendship is too much to ignore and she may find herself falling for the guy who is already taken.
They make you feel really good about yourself
When a married guy flirts with you, calls you, or sleeps with you, he’s taking a major life risk to be able to enjoy your company. “Part of the intoxication is: ‘This person’s married so I must be really special,’”
As long as it’s illicit and forbidden, sparks fly. If he were to actually leave his wife or partner to make this relationship permanent, brace yourself for a nosedive. For starters, he cheated on her with you, so how could you ever know he wouldn’t treat you the same way.
The pursuit of the unattainable man can be a thrilling challenge, but the end result always ends up in heartache; one cannot unattach anything without ripping some seams. Either much time and effort is wasted by trying to change what doesn’t need fixing, or in the event you are successful and end up attaining the unattainable, there is bound to be distrust on both sides.