advances in technology, communications and sciences across the world is
one of the defining aspects of the last few decades. From social media
websites to free video calling services from anywhere in the world just
being a phone’s click away it would appear that the millennial
generation has it all. But if we move past all the smartphones and
gadgets and websites and take a hard look at the lives of Gen Y, we will
notice that dating has become harder than ever.
DIMINISHING BOUNDARIES BETWEEN WORK AND PERSONAL SPACE
principal reason behind dating being so hard these days is that over
the course of the last decade people’s lives have become increasingly
demanding and hectic. Our jobs, be it in the industry or private
business or academia have left most of us feeling drained at the end of a
hard day’s work. Taking the extra initiative to put an effort in
building new relationships and associations seems like an uphill task.
of laptops, social media and smart phones, work no longer remains
confined in office cubicles but manages to reach the dinner tables and
the bedrooms. Personal life slowly gets swallowed in a relentless
sleepless cycle of spreadsheets, graphs, Powerpoint slides and sales
figures. If we somehow manage to keep our jobs out of our personal lives
we may have the chance to have more fulfilling dating lives.
SEXUAL PREDATORS, PERVERTS, STALKERS, AND SADISTS MASQUERADING AS LOVE SEEKERS AND LOVERS
would assume that with so many dating websites, chat rooms and
messenger services available at fingertips, dating would have become a
lot easier. Surprisingly, not only has it not become easier, but bad
experiences from these dating services have put many people off the very
idea of dating. It’s such common news story that a young boy or girl
falls victim to some predator through one of these websites, it has
become a borderline sociological cliché.
events such as this have subsequently led to serious crimes like
robberies, fraud and even murder. This makes people more and more wary
of using such websites; even if they do there are apprehensive of
opening up and overly guarded in their responses which defeats the very
purpose of such websites. It has an even worse effect on the minds of
people because it literally goes to show you that there are a great
number of people looking to date but none of them are compatible with
you. This often leads to a serious lack in confidence and self esteem
and even depression in many cases.
FINDING LOVE AT HOPELESS PLACES – THE BEGINNING OF HOPELESS LOVE STORIES
the highly specialized areas of work in today’s job market and the
frenzied pace of life in the corporate/academic world, there is very
little chance of forging associations outside one’s sphere of work. This
leads to more and more couples springing up from the same workplace.
While initially, it may provide a familiar setting and make it easier to
broach topics of conversation these relationships or dating paradigms
usually turn sour after a while because it is hard to remain objective
about professional business standards while sharing working space with
look at hard statistical estimates of celebrities or actors or
musicians who have dated people in their line of work reveals
disproportionate amount of these relationships ending badly after a
short period of time. While it is conceivable that many healthy
relationships could spring from the workplace, one must always keep in
mind that the element of competition between two partners needs to be
weeded out when they start seeing each other seriously.
related problem in today’s dating world is the fact that when couples
from work start dating; they inevitably bring work and the disputes at
work back home with them. This consequently affects their personal life
and relationship dynamics to an extent that they eventually break up.
THE PSYCHOLOGICAL PRESSURES OF CONTEMPORARY SOCIETIES ARE TOO MUCH TO HANDLE
would not like to belong to any club that would have me as one of its
members” remarked Woody Allen as an analogy about dating in his famous
movie Annie Hall. This mental setup is common among a growing section
The attributes that have come to define us and the overexposure that the 21st century
human is subjected to leaves no dearth of psychological problems. More
and more people each year are diagnosed with clinical depression and
anxiety problems. This becomes a detriment when it comes to dating. With
dissatisfying home, office or academic environments the relationship in
many cases become the dumping ground for emotional baggage.
sometimes it is good to share and spell out feelings as they stand it
is not healthy to keep using your date as an emotional crutch over and
over again. It is therefore advisable to work on your trust, abandonment
or other issues before embarking on healthy dating choices.