Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Reason why woman does not like $ex

Remember when you and your wife were dating? It was really difficult to keep your hands off each other.  You wanted her and she wanted you.  That felt so good.  It was awesome.  There’s no better feeling than being desired.  After marriage, and particularly after having kids, things have a way of changing.  You are still ready to go every night, but she’s not.  What happened?  You feel like you rarely have sex anymore and when you do it feels like she’s doing you a favor.
You work out, you look good, but it doesn’t make a difference.  You’re lost.  This whole married sex thing was supposed to be different.  Couples counseling might be something to consider for deeper insight.  However, these 5 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex will help you understand and show you what to do.
1. She Doesn’t Feel Connected to You.
While we feel more connected to our wives by having sex, our wives need to connect first.  You may have talked with her about daily logistics or superficial things.  She needs more.  She wants to be seen, heard, and known.  The disconnect causes her loneliness.  It’s like she’s trapped in a dungeon alone.  You need to free her.
Action:Talk to her about her. Find out how she is feeling, her insecurities, fears, and struggles. Also share how you are feeling.  Look at her–no distractions.  Get tunnel vision on her.  “Clear the mechanism.
2. She Doesn’t Feel Sexy.
Her body has changed since having kids.  She knows it and she probably thinks about it all the time, constantly comparing herself to other women.  Even when she returns to her pre-kid body, I guarantee she’s still comparing–desperate for affirmation.  The best place she can get it is from you. 
Action:  Affirm her.  She needs to feel your passion for her in your words, body language and eyes.  Tell her she’s sexy and why—particularly when she makes a negative comment about herself.  When you get home from work, greet her with a long hug and kiss before you greet the kids.  Look into her eyes and don’t be in a hurry to look away.  When you’re out, direct your eyes to her rather than other places.  Give her a look that communicates, in a room full of people, she’s the only one you want to talk to.
3. Her Sexual Appetite is Naturally Not as Strong as Yours.
Studies show that over the course of a relationship, a woman’s desire for sex decreases while her desire for tenderness increases.  The problem is that our desire for sex stays just as high as always.  Even at its highest state, her appetite might not have been as high as yours and probably never will be.
Action:Recognize this reality and be patient with her.  Reach out to her with physical and emotional tenderness.  That’s what she wants and needs.  Try to meet her needs before your own.
4. She is Tired, Stressed, or Depressed.
Motherhood is exhausting, emotionally draining and stressful.  Once again, depending on the depth of her anxiety and/or depression you may want to seek counseling.
 Action: Give her some rest.  Take the kids out for a day, run some errands for her, or clean the house. If she is stressed or depressed, rub her shoulders without her asking you.  Give her a foot or full body massage.  Tell her to kick back and relax.  Give her music to listen to and light some candles.  Take her tension away.      
5. She’s Focused on Being a Mom, Not a Wife. 
Women put a lot of pressure on themselves to be the perfect mom–to have it all together.  They beat themselves up for every little mistake or lack of knowledge.  They compare and can obsess on eliminating imperfections.  Sometimes our relationship as husband and wife gets lost.  That’s not good.  Your intimate relationship is important and needs her attention too.
Action: You need to talk to her about how you feel.  However, make sure you are not prosecuting or pressuring her.  Encourage her about how amazing she is as a mom.  Let her know though that you miss her, want her, and desire her.  It might even be okay to use the word jealous here.  Your biggest concern should be for more intimacy–a significant need for each of you

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Ways on how to fall in love easily

When my wife Mary and I got married 13 years ago, I honestly thought our love would never fade. There was so much passion in our relationship that we must have been on some kind of love high.
Remember how sweet and passionate things were when you were first dating? I’m sure those days included a lot of handholding, kissing, cuddling, date nights, surprises, gifts, and dreaming together.
Those were the days when you couldn’t get enough of each other and wanted to spend every waking moment in their arms. I remember one night we talked until sunrise without even realizing it. We would try to top each other with our cheesy love notes and struggled to keep our hands off each other.
Fast forward past our wedding day, the honeymoon, and 13 years of marriage. There are kids, bills, piles of laundry, meetings at work, and a never ending to-do list. We’re exhausted. Maybe you can see yourself in our love story.
Has hand holding been replaced with pointing fingers? Has conversation been replaced with silence? Has connection been replaced with loneliness? We like to geek out about marriage so here are some powerful yet simple ideas to renew that passionate love you had in the beginning. But first, let me explain why this is important.
Dr. John Gottman, the nation’s leading marriage researcher, suggests that couples hoping to spark romance need to turn towards each other even when they don’t feel like it. Yes, even when you’re exhausted or irritated. Friendship is absolutely essential to thriving marriages. In relationships that thrive, partners consistently make and receive bids for positive connection.
Here are 14 practical ways for you to start turning towards each other:
  • Schedule a next date night and keep the plans a surprise. The anticipation will spark a renewed sense of fun.
  • Practice the daily 60 second blessing. This is a daily habit of affirming the positive qualities you see in each other. Watch a quick video where we explain what this looks like here.
  • Send flirty texts to each other throughout the day. Trust me, your partner will appreciate it.
  • Make foreplay a priority. Make more room in your calendar to make out before sex.
  • Be affectionate and playful with each other in front of others. It’s not enough to just brag to each other in private, it’s significant to compliment your spouse in public.
  • Start a new hobby together. Brainstorm some ideas and create a list of shared interests.
  • Show appreciation by saying “Thank you,” and “I appreciate all you do.” This goes a long way in showing respect to each other.
  • Take a walk hand in hand. Nothing gets the blood moving and the connection juices flowing like taking a walk around the block.
  • Focus on the positive qualities of each other by writing them down and posting it around the house.
  • Plan a vacation together – no kids allowed. It doesn’t even have to be extravagant, but time alone is so important.
  • Dream together which helps build security. Have you created a dream board where you jot down your goals or things you want to do together? Go for it!
  • Pay attention to your spouse more than you pay attention to your phone & TV. Less screen time, more face time.
  • Reminisce about your favorite date nights, wedding day, honeymoon, and travels together by pulling out old photos.
  • Learn something new about your spouse. Pick up a deck ofLove Map cards which contain fun questions to ask each other. Stay thirsty, I mean curious, my friends.

Saturday, January 14, 2017

ways on how to get married easily by using social media

Socialite Dokun Olumofin has shared another tips to women. And this time it's how to get married in 5 months using Social Media.

Read below...


1. YOU MUST HAVE A PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHER (This will enhance your images and beauty for potential suitors)
2. YOU MUST POST BIBLE QUOTES (Every man wants a religious woman)


4. RECOMMENDATION FOR YOUR IG BIO (Virgo,Lawyer,Lover of Life,Super Chef/Cook, Christian or Muslim, Independent Woman, Arsenal , Chelsea, Man United Lover)



7. FOLLOW VERY FEW MALE CELEBS ( So you will not be perceived as celebrity Groupie)




11. YOU MUST HAVE 1 VIDEO TWERKING (Every Man wants a sexy ass babe & thirsty dudes turn to Husbands)







18. REMOVE YOUR ACCOUNT FROM PRIVATE (you are hiding from your future husband)

Things men need to do to become a good husband

10 Tips for becoming the better husband:
1. Every day, aim one “random act of kindness” at your spouse: Plan for it, write down what you’re going to do, then check the deed off once it’s done. Odds are, being deliberate in this way will lead naturally to more.
2. Talk openly about your finances: Money surprises are never good, so stay a few steps ahead and include your wife in an ongoing conversation about the budget. This does not mean monitoring her spending. It does mean that you don’t keep secrets, you value her input, and you make important decisions as a team.
3. Make the effort to find out more about your wife:
– Do you know her favorite band?
– What books did she read last year/is she reading now?
-Where would she like to go if you had a three-day weekend?
– What restaurant she’s been dying to visit?
– Ask good questions, and then listen.
4. Try some creative/imaginative ways to tell your wife how much you love her: Don’t assume she knows. Even if she does know, hearing it from you will spark the fire. Before long you’ll realize that you love her more. Here are some tips:
– Slip a card or love note into her purse at the beginning of the day.
– Figure out obscure anniversaries (first date, engagement day, the day we moved into our first house etc.) and then make a big deal of celebrating together.
– Leave loving answering machine messages when you know she’s not going to be there.
– Make the bed and put a single rose on her pillow.
– Run a bubble bath for her and keep the house interruption-free while she enjoys it.
– Color a gaudy sign and put it on the windshield of her car.
5. Plan some fun: It doesn’t have to be expensive.
– Putt-putt
– Midnight bowling
-A late night walk on the beach
– Game-night (Scrabble, Monopoly, Apples to Apples) and ice cream
– Use your imagination.
6. Make note of your TV watching habits, and then cut your “tube-time” in half: Use the extra time to do something for or with your wife. Take a look at other media usage too – what does it say about your priorities in terms of relationships?
7. Make a list of the five things you’re most passionate about and where you invest most of your free time: If your wife is not number one on that list, then consider what steps you might take to make sure she is.
8. Confide in some friends: Make sure they’re friends who are in a relationship with some “spark.” Ask for their support and encouragement; exchange ideas.
9. Be deliberate about being positive: Take a look at your interactions with your wife: What percentage are confrontational? How often are you fighting? Do you tell one another jokes? What’s the ratio of purely informational dialogue to talking that advances the relationship? Now make a concerted effort to initiate positive, intimate, redemptive conversations. Learn a new joke every day if you have to; the point is to be proactive, not reactive.
10. Try counseling: OK, I know this sounds intense, but think of it as a 30,000-mile tune-up. Tell your wife you’re looking for ways to be a better husband, and that you want to work on moving forward, all the time. This could involve a few weekly appointments, a marriage enrichment seminar, a couples group at your faith-community, or any number of other intentional interventions.

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

ways on how to repair a broken marriage


When couples vow to spend the rest of their lives together, the vision of blissful times often masks the reality that marriage can be challenging. Marriage is a partnership that requires hard work and effort from both parties. It is inevitable that there will be financial, social and relationship hardships that may threaten to strain your union. Working together to make your relationship a priority can help to repair the strain and revive the love you have for each other.
Make Each Other a Priority
Time is often the biggest challenge for married couples. Work, household and family commitments tend to override the need for one-on-one time. Make your marriage a priority by setting aside consistent times to communicate and enjoy each other’s company, suggests Maud Purcell, a family therapist with PsychCentral.com. Incorporate date nights each month and designate an evening to take a 20-minute walk or watch your favorite TV show together. When the marriage is strained, it can help to engage in activities that are fun and light-hearted to help bring a spark back to your relationship.
Display Affection
Resuscitate the romance in your marriage by surprising your spouse with displays of affection. A gentle nudge or wink can show that even though your relationship may be strained, you still genuinely care for your partner. Plan a romantic dinner or leave a love note on the kitchen counter to remind your spouse that you are committed to the relationship. If you make the effort to court your spouse, it is likely he will follow suit, says Purcell.
Take Care of Yourself
Marriage is a two-way street, yet it is important to evaluate your feelings about the relationship. Do you feel as if you have lost your own identity? Do you love yourself as much as your spouse? Take some time to get to know yourself better and initiate changes that will improve your well-being, suggests Purcell. When you make time to spruce up your appearance, exercise, rest and eat healthily, your physical and emotional health can improve significantly, not to mention your confidence. It is likely your spouse will notice a surge in your confidence and well-being, and take notice of the changes you are willing to make to improve your relationship.
Accept What You Can’t Change
Marriage strain is often attributed to habits, interests and actions that annoy or anger couples. Instead of drowning in pity or nagging your spouse until an argument erupts, accept what you can’t change, says Purcell. Instead of focusing on the fact that your husband is a slob or your wife refuses to cook, focus on the positive attributes within your spouse. Griping and moaning won’t change your partner’s behavior; if you compliment the positive, though, you may soon find that your spouse is willing to work on the negative aspects within the relationship.
Many times, marriages become strained due to miscommunication. You may perceive a remark or action differently than what your spouse intended. Clear the air by making time for regular conversations with your partner. Have conversations about your interests, goals, dreams and hobbies instead of filling this one-on-one time with discussions about work, household duties and family obligations. Make the effort to learn something new about your spouse during daily discussions to help reduce the strain of your marriage.

Things woman must need to know about sex


Sweet black couple talking on floor
Frustrated because the man in your life is oblivious to what makes your libido soar? Don’t hide unsatisfied under the duvet. Wish you had a more satisfying s3x life? Unveil in this article is the six most common things that women wish men knew about s3x.
We can’t turn our libidos on like a light switch: Guys seem ready for s3x anytime, anywhere, but for most women it’s not so easy. “Men can get erections from their genitals brushing against their clothing, they might expect that women can get aroused quickly when actually it takes much longer, and it’s not just about the physical, the mental stuff has to be in place, too.” The mental weight from daily stresses such as work deadlines and household duties can negatively impact a woman’s s3xual appetite. Most men are able to ignore such worries and dive right in, creating a situation where they can’t understand why their partner doesn’t automatically jump into a steamy clinch, too.
S3x isn’t over when you have an orgasm: Just because men have reached completion doesn’t mean that the s3xual escapade is over. You just assume that it’s over and that’s unfair to women.
Women aren’t all the same, ask what we would like in bed: Do have the feeling that your guy has used the same moves on every partner that he’s ever had? Does he assume that what works on another woman, works on you, too? Sorry, ladies. You might have to accept some of the blame for this one. Women don’t often tell their partners how things make them feel. They want their partners to be mind readers, men could use help in terms of honest communication.
We’re visual, too: Women primp, pose and pluck themselves into $exual perfection. Lingerie, perfume and questionable personal hygiene. A little more effort would be appreciated, male partners should be reminded that women are visual, too. Men, take note! “Take care of yourself. That stubble that looks so cool is not so great for making out, or receiving 0ral s3x. Manly fingernails can hurt when you’re manually stimulating your partner. A man’s attention to personal hygiene is a big turn-on for a woman.
An orgasm through penetration isn’t the be all and end all: Men think that women should always have an orgasm. In movies and P0rnography, women are having orgasms at the drop of a hat, so men are getting an unrealistic picture of what women’s orgasms are really like. For many women, orgasms can be difficult to achieve, and their partner might take it personally if she can’t have one. It’s crazy for men to think that they must give their partners an orgasm; they should banish it from their thoughts because it puts pressure on them to be s3xual dynamos, and it puts pressure on their female partners to perform or it leads women to faking which doesn’t help anybody.

Sunday, January 8, 2017

Ways on how to restore an ended marriage


It’s no secret that marriage is hard work. However, sometimes, no matter how hard you try, the relationship ends. If you are longing to reconnect with your ex and restore the commitment you once cherished, it’s time to explore your feelings, actions and goals to ensure that the marriage will be reconciled on a solid foundation. With open communication and counseling, you and your ex may soon recapture the love you have for each other.
Seek Professional Counseling
Consult professionals to help you restore your marriage. Marriage counselors can help couples discuss conflicts, differences and barriers that may have led to the end of a marriage, says Mark Dombeck, clinical psychologist and former director of MentalHelp.net.
Trust in the process. Marriage counseling can be a draining experience. It forces you to look at your own faults, weaknesses and actions that may have contributed to the breakdown of your marriage.
Know that counseling is designed to help you both heal. By talking through your feelings in a safe environment, you and your ex may be able to better understand each other and empathize with each other.
Accept Each Other
Try to understand that marriage is a two-way street. Although you may not like your ex-husband’s hobbies or interests, it’s important to support him.
Pick your battles. Accepting each other involves acknowledging that your ex-spouse may not operate or function in the same way that you do. He may prefer to sleep in while you’re an early riser. You may prefer to dine in while he wants to dine out. Try not to focus on the small stuff and positively reinforce each other’s strengths.
Avoid launching into arguments about every little thing and choose to accept your ex-spouse for who he is instead of trying to change him. Accept what you can’t change, recommends Maud Purcell, family therapist at PsychCentral.com.
Communicate Regularly
Make time for communication on a daily basis. Marriage breakdowns often occur because spouses fail to communicate with each other.
Work past the excuses and schedule one-on-one time with each other. Whether you take a brief stroll through the neighborhood for 15 minutes or embark on a dinner and movie date once a week, use this time to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company, suggests Purcell.
Keep conversations light. If the goal is to get to know each other better during these daily communication sessions, avoid tackling tense topics, such as finances or fall-outs from the past. Instead, discuss your day, your hopes, dreams and goals. Take the time to learn something new about each other each day.
Build Your Confidence
Work to restore your marriage by working on yourself. If you are feeling well emotionally and physically, your spouse will surely notice. Your confidence will also soar, enabling you to see your own value in the relationship.
Pamper yourself, exercise regularly and eat healthy. Your physical health directly affects your mental health, according to Purcell, so taking care of yourself can ultimately lead to a clear head when expressing your feelings, wants and needs with your spouse.
Initiate changes that will improve your well-being. If your habits or vices are damaging your health, work to eliminate these activities. If you are fostering feelings of anger, sadness or jealousy, talk with a trusted friend or therapist to help you cope and rebuild your sense of self. Once your ex-husband sees the efforts you have made to improve yourself, it’s likely he will follow suit to help restore the marriage.
Avoid hanging on to the past or placing blame on your spouse. If you wish to restore your marriage, you will need to learn how to forgive your spouse.