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Saturday, December 31, 2016

Things that make dating not to last longer

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 Staggering advances in technology, communications and sciences across the world is one of the defining aspects of the last few decades. From social media websites to free video calling services from anywhere in the world just being a phone’s click away it would appear that the millennial generation has it all. But if we move past all the smartphones and gadgets and websites and take a hard look at the lives of Gen Y, we will notice that dating has become harder than ever.

DIMINISHING BOUNDARIES BETWEEN WORK AND PERSONAL SPACE

The principal reason behind dating being so hard these days is that over the course of the last decade people’s lives have become increasingly demanding and hectic. Our jobs, be it in the industry or private business or academia have left most of us feeling drained at the end of a hard day’s work. Taking the extra initiative to put an effort in building new relationships and associations seems like an uphill task.
Because of laptops, social media and smart phones, work no longer remains confined in office cubicles but manages to reach the dinner tables and the bedrooms. Personal life slowly gets swallowed in a relentless sleepless cycle of spreadsheets, graphs, Powerpoint slides and sales figures. If we somehow manage to keep our jobs out of our personal lives we may have the chance to have more fulfilling dating lives.

SEXUAL PREDATORS, PERVERTS, STALKERS, AND SADISTS MASQUERADING AS LOVE SEEKERS AND LOVERS

One would assume that with so many dating websites, chat rooms and messenger services available at fingertips, dating would have become a lot easier. Surprisingly, not only has it not become easier, but bad experiences from these dating services have put many people off the very idea of dating. It’s such common news story that a young boy or girl falls victim to some predator through one of these websites, it has become a borderline sociological cliché.
Unsavory events such as this have subsequently led to serious crimes like robberies, fraud and even murder. This makes people more and more wary of using such websites; even if they do there are apprehensive of opening up and overly guarded in their responses which defeats the very purpose of such websites. It has an even worse effect on the minds of people because it literally goes to show you that there are a great number of people looking to date but none of them are compatible with you. This often leads to a serious lack in confidence and self esteem and even depression in many cases.

FINDING LOVE AT HOPELESS PLACES – THE BEGINNING OF HOPELESS LOVE STORIES

With the highly specialized areas of work in today’s job market and the frenzied pace of life in the corporate/academic world, there is very little chance of forging associations outside one’s sphere of work. This leads to more and more couples springing up from the same workplace. While initially, it may provide a familiar setting and make it easier to broach topics of conversation these relationships or dating paradigms usually turn sour after a while because it is hard to remain objective about professional business standards while sharing working space with one’s date.
A look at hard statistical estimates of celebrities or actors or musicians who have dated people in their line of work reveals disproportionate amount of these relationships ending badly after a short period of time. While it is conceivable that many healthy relationships could spring from the workplace, one must always keep in mind that the element of competition between two partners needs to be weeded out when they start seeing each other seriously.
Another related problem in today’s dating world is the fact that when couples from work start dating; they inevitably bring work and the disputes at work back home with them. This consequently affects their personal life and relationship dynamics to an extent that they eventually break up.

THE PSYCHOLOGICAL PRESSURES OF CONTEMPORARY SOCIETIES ARE TOO MUCH TO HANDLE

“I would not like to belong to any club that would have me as one of its members” remarked Woody Allen as an analogy about dating in his famous movie Annie Hall.  This mental setup is common among a growing section of people.
The attributes that have come to define us and the overexposure that the 21st century human is subjected to leaves no dearth of psychological problems. More and more people each year are diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety problems. This becomes a detriment when it comes to dating. With dissatisfying home, office or academic environments the relationship in many cases become the dumping ground for emotional baggage.
While sometimes it is good to share and spell out feelings as they stand it is not healthy to keep using your date as an emotional crutch over and over again. It is therefore advisable to work on your trust, abandonment or other issues before embarking on healthy dating choices.

Thursday, December 29, 2016

7 things sex always does to the body

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Why Sex Is Ridiculously Healthy
You know sex feels good and does wonders for your mood.
But did you know that it benefits your health (his too!) in a number of not-so-obvious ways? The reason, according to scientists, is that during lovemaking, our bodies produce a cascade of hormones (and other biological changes) that can ease pain, lower cancer risk, boost immunity, and even offset menopausal symptoms. Taking care of your health has never been so much fun.
1. Reduces chronic pain
Next time you have a headache, just say yes.
Stimulation of your clitoris and vaginal walls triggers the release of endorphins, corticosteroids, and other natural painkillers. As a result, you’ll feel less pain from headaches and sore muscles during sex. The benefit, which begins before you orgasm, can linger for up to 2 days, says Barry Komisaruk, PhD, a Rutgers University psychology professor and coauthor of The Science of Orgasm. In his research, he found that women could withstand painful pressure to their fingers while they were stimulated with sex toys; during orgasm, pain tolerance doubled. And self-stimulation through the front wall of the vagina, where some find their G-spot, increases pain tolerance and pain detection thresholds by up to 50%, reports Komisaruk.
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Reducing pain is one of the 7 reasons to have sex.
2. Lowers breast cancer risk
During arousal and orgasm, your levels of “happiness” hormones rise.
Two of these—oxytocin and DHEA—may help keep breasts cancer free. One study showed that women who have sex more than once a month have a lower risk of developing breast cancer than those who are less sexually active. And Greek researchers found that men who had at least seven orgasms a month in their 50s had a significantly lower chance of developing male breast cancer.
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Lowering your breast cancer risk is one of the 7 reasons to have sex.
3. Gives your heart a workout
Cardiologists rank intercourse as a mild-to-moderate-intensity exercise that enhances heart health as well as brisk walking does.
As with any workout, the more vigorous you are, the more your heart benefits. The positions you try matter too; being on top is especially cardiac-friendly because it usually requires more effort. Orgasm delivers a bonus: At your peak moment, your heart rate may hit 110 beats per minute, comparable to what you might achieve when walking quickly or jogging.
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Giving your heart a workout is one of the 7 reasons to have sex.
4. Protects his prostate
Catholic priests have an elevated chance of dying of prostate cancer, and studies point to celibacy as a factor.
In 2003, research on middle-aged Australian men found that those who averaged at least four ejaculations a week had a one-third lower chance of developing prostate cancer than those who had fewer. “When you drain the pipes, as it were, you have less clogging,” says Irwin Goldstein, MD, head of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital. Though the results of the study were clear, the reasons they occurred were not, says Goldstein, who calls for more research.
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Protecting his prostate is one of the 7 reasons to have sex.
5. Lowers stress
Got a big presentation coming up at work? Spend some time in bed beforehand.
A 2005 study found that men and women who had engaged in intercourse in the 2 weeks before a stressful day had an easier time while doing public speaking and some verbal arithmetic. During their presentations, their systolic blood pressure (the first number in a blood-pressure reading) increased less and then dropped back to its normal level at a faster rate than that of people who had no sexual relations or had other forms of sex, including noncoital interactions or masturbation. One theory about why this occurs is that intercourse requires more complex brain activity; another idea is that it stimulates a number of important nerves not triggered during other sexual activity.
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Lowering stress is one of the 7 reasons to have sex.
6. Revs your immune system
It’s not just apples—sex helps keep the doctor away too.
Research from Wilkes University showed that college students who engaged in sex once or twice a week had 30% higher levels of infection-fighting antibodies than did their abstinent classmates. In 2004, German scientists produced similar results: Blood tests showed that arousal and orgasm in men increased levels of certain pathogen-fighting white blood cells. The effect is comparable to that of other stress-busting activities, such as exercise and listening to music, which also boost secretion of certain proteins that defend the body against infection.
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Revving your immune system is one of the 7 reasons to have sex.
7. Keeps down below healthy
A healthy sex life can prevent dryness—and the pain that comes with it.
Scientists in New Jersey found that postmenopausal women who had sexual relations more than 10 times a year had less evidence of vaginal atrophy than those who reported less frequent sex. That’s a sign of healthy tissues, says Sandra Leiblum, PhD, a New Jersey sex therapist who helped conduct the study. Arousal brings blood to the vagina, which delivers nutrients and oxygen. Keep using this part of your body, and you’ll help prevent the tissue from becoming thinner and less elastic as you age, so intercourse can remain comfortable and pleasurable.

Tuesday, December 27, 2016

How to make your guy to stop flecting with you

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Well, the good news is that there’s definitely a way to get to this guy to stop flirting with you. The bad news is that it might just be at the expense of your friendship.
I actually answered an almost identical question about a year ago and the only thing that’s changed since then is the amount of faith I have in the flexibility of co-ed relationships. There are always exceptions, but the typical young guy already digging on a girl won’t have the maturity to accept the “consolation prize” (as he’ll see it) of a platonic relationship with her. Whether your dynamic together has been lopsided from the start, or developed into a one-way romance over time, your friend is gonna have a tough time mentally placing you back into that “friendship box” – that is, if he can at all – once he’s already begun viewing you as something more.
As I advised the lady in the post referenced earlier, beyond making your position clear through verbal cues (which it sounds like you’ve already done if he knows that you’re not interested), you’ll have to back away from or break ties with this guy in order to find peace. Even if he is able to temporarily mask his emotions, he won’t be able to actually work past them until he gets enough distance from you.
Fortunately, it should be easier to avoid this guy than the dude who wouldn’t stop harrassing his best friend’s girlfriend — and either way, cutting him off will certainly be less messy. For a smooth transition, be as decisive and clear about your wishes as possible. Your friend might be confused, hormonal, or hopelessly in love, but if you’re not picking up what he’s throwing down, don’t make it your problem when it’s ultimately his!
Good luck!

Monday, December 26, 2016

How The Knowledge Of The Difference Between Desires And Fantastics Can Save Your Sex Life

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These conversations have some very specific rules to follow if you want to make space for connection and intimacy. Before talking about the rules, we want to make an important distinction between Hottest Sexual Movies and fantasies.
Your Hottest Sexual Movie consists of the experiences you actually want to have. In addition to this, you may have a set of fantasies that you use to increase your arousal during sex or masturbation but that you don’t actually want to fully enact in the world. For example, you might fantasize about group sex but have no interest in actually experiencing it. These may exist totally outside of your sexual relationship together or you might want to be able to express these fantasies to your partner in a way that brings them into your movie. For example, if you are playing with dominant/submissive dynamics you may want your partner to punish you for having this fantasy. Conversely, you may just want to use it for yourself and never share it in an erotically charged space. We encourage you to share both your movies and your fantasies as part of the conversation and be specific.
Sharing your hottest sexual movie will take self-awareness, conscious communication and non-judgmental acceptance. It will also require the ability to know and share your boundaries, the willingness to learn instead of feeling like you already need to know, and a whole lot of creativity. One word of caution, When it comes to sharing past experiences with other lovers, be aware that this could trigger hurt. Be especially careful not to compare your partner to someone else with whom you’ve had amazing sex. Trust us, they will never forget this.
When you describe your movies, picture the character(s), the action, the setting, and what you feel. While it is a beautiful gift to really dive into the role of guest star in your partner’s movie, you also have a right to decide which parts you are ready to try now, which parts you might want to add later, and which parts you may never do at all. You might have more than one movie or might want to begin in one and move into another one. For example you might find a romantic seduction scenario is what gets you started but when it comes to actually getting you off a more passionate, animalistic sex fits the bill. Sometimes the process of articulating these desires can open up new avenues of play and seduction.
Always remember that none of this is set in stone. This is an ongoing conversation that you and your partner can always revisit and amend. In our book, Making Love Real, we go into greater depth as to how the process of discovering, sharing and finally acting out your hottest sexual movie can change your relationship in lasting and amazing ways.

Sunday, December 25, 2016

8 Tips On How Couple Can satisfy Themselves Sexually

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Achieve bliss in the bedroom by applying these real-world tips.
Your sister, your best friend, your cubicle-mate—you keep hearing about these women who enjoy fabulous sex lives with their partners. But how do they manage to keep it hot, especially when they have a couple of kids and more than a few years together? So you don’t have to broach the subject yourself, we asked a few lucky women for their secrets to a satisfying sex life. Here’s what they had to say—and how you can apply their advice in your own bedroom.
1. They schedule sex.
What? Put “Have sex” on your calendar? “Absolutely!” say couples happy with their sex lives. Rather than killing the mood with a lack of spontaneity, scheduling sex tends to “take away all the very real excuses I could otherwise use, like that I’m exhausted after working and getting the kids to bed,” says Holly Jenkins,* who has been married for two years and has three boys under the age of 10. ”
2. They lock the bedroom door
This little bit of hardware is essential in a home with children, says Jennifer Flanders, who’s been married 24 years and has 12 children, ranging in age from 11 months to 23 years. She jokes that whenever the family moves to a new home, a new lock on the master bedroom tops the to-do list. Even if you don’t have a physical lock, creating a sense of boundaries is key, says Sacha Mohammed—married 14 years, with 7 children. “I always made sure the children were put to bed on time when they were little so my husband and I could have our time together; the kids were also taught to always knock to announce their presence.” According to Dr. Zdrok Wilson, “each couple needs to evaluate their environment and determine the optimal conditions for great sex.” For some, a lock may be enough to create an adults-only barrier. Others may need to go further to create a sensual, relaxing haven in their bedroom by banning electronic gadgets, computers and TVs, not to mention kids and their toys!
3. They have perfected the quickie
During certain critical periods in a marriage––particularly when you’re new parents––time and energy are both at a premium. Couples who maintain a good sex life during these challenging times have learned to make the quickie something that’s good for both of them. If you’ve avoided speedy sex sessions in the past because it takes time for you to physically get in the mood, don’t underestimate the power of the mind-body connection.
4. They experiment.
“Be open to different ways of expressing yourself sexually,” says Jenkins. “As with music, people tend to like a mix of the predictable and unexpected.” You have to find the right balance between being adventurous and being conventional: Don’t be so conventional that it’s boring. But don’t be so adventurous that you lose your intimacy–or level of comfort. This could mean everything from positions to the overall attitude you bring to the intimate encounter. Sexual ruts––always doing it on a certain day, at a certain time, in a certain room––can breed boredom. Something as simple as mixing it up on the living room floor or in the shower can add some much-needed spice. Or get out of the house entirely. “Many couples report that they have the best sex when they’re not at home,” says Dr. Zdrok Wilson.
5. They keep communicating
Mohammed says that “excellent communication skills” is the top reason she and her husband continue to enjoy a satisfying sex life. “Before we got married, my husband told me we would talk about everything, and he meant it,” she says. There’s no other way to understand what your partner wants, needs or enjoys other than talking. And don’t make assumptions: You may be surprised to learn that what you thought was foolproof doesn’t really float his boat anymore, says Gilchrest O’Neill. “Save those conversations for when you’re not having sex, though in the actual moment, speak up about small adjustments your partner can make to increase enjoyment.
6. They avoid or reject excuses.
“Many of the excuses other couples use to avoid sex––like headaches, stress, tiredness or arguments––are some of the exact same reasons we choose to make sex a priority,” says Flanders. “Sex relieves pain, reduces stress, promotes better sleep and motivates us to settle our disagreements quickly.” Beware of letting excuses take on a life of their own, because, to use one example, the kids aren’t needy babies forever, and before you know it sex is so far on the back burner it’s fallen completely off the stove. “Brainstorm solutions to the things that get in the way of having sex,” suggests Gilchrest O’Neill. Tired? Go to bed earlier. Not enough time? Get creative with the hours or minutes you do have. However, if the root of your excuses isn’t fixable with practical changes (for example, if there are underlying problems or resentments), consider seeing a therapist.
7. They trust each other.
Jenkins cites her and her husband’s adventurous sex life, but is quick to add that for adventurousness to exist, it has to be preceded by trust. “Great sex is a reflection of the overall rapport and communication you have in other rooms of the house. To have trust with your spouse, you have to always try to build each other up outside the bedroom. If you say or do something critical or disrespectful to your partner during the day, why would he want to be naked and try something new with you later that evening?” she asks. Trust, comfort and ease with each other happens when you engage in active listening, says Dr. Zdrok Wilson. “You have to work on listening to your partner in an active, empathetic way and reciprocate by confiding in him, and baring your own feelings,” she says. Once you two feel like allies—not adversaries—your sex life will feel more honest and, hopefully, a lot hotter!
8. They care about their appearance and health.
We still take pride in how we look for each other,” says Mohammed. Certainly staying in shape and paying attention to appearance helps you and your partner maintain the mood. But it’s not just about pleasing your partner’s eye; taking care of yourself makes you feel good about yourself. Not only that, but your libido is dependent on your overall health. “When you feel unhealthy, tired, ill or lacking in energy, you’re not likely to be motivated to engage in regular sexual activity,” says Dr. Zdrok Wilson. So, hit the gym, put on some makeup or dress up even if you’re not going anywhere. Do whatever makes you feel sexy and he’s guaranteed to notice.

$ex Tip: Touch Her Here

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There are ways to be touched that are brilliant and other ways that are kind of blah. If there’s one thing we know about the way people touch each other during sex it’s that they often touch their partner the way that they, themselves, like to be touched rather than finding out how their partner likes to be touched.
Although there’s a lot of variability in how people like touch, it tends to be the case that men – whose genitals are covered in skin and less sensitive than women’s – tend to prefer rougher forms of touch. More thrusting, more vigor. Whereas women – whose genitals are more vulnerable and some ways and more sensitive in some spots (hello, clitoris!) – tend to prefer less aggressive touch. Women often prefer gentle tongue flicks on the clitoris or gentle but first stimulation of their genitals. Again, this isn’t always the case – there are no clear gender rules in sex – but generally speaking this is often how things fall out.
So when men and women get together, we sometimes find that men get “grabby” with women’s bodies and women are sometimes too soft or gingerly when they give hand jobs, with men asking them to squeeze a little harder. Lesson learned: rather than assume you know how your partner likes to be touched, ask him or her! Or try a few moves and ask for feedback (“does this feel good? would you like to be touched harder? softer? faster or slower?” etc). Got it? Good. Now go have some fun out there.

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Why men always send their penis pictures to ladies



If you have ever wondered why some men send photos of their private parts to women, then this is your chance to find out.
Finally, ladies: the answer you’ve long been waiting for.
It was just a matter of time before we took the technology we have at our fingertips and made it all about s*x. I mean, we’re horny, s*xual beings, so why wouldn’t we?
But while sending our partners Nudde photos seems totally acceptable, the whole “D!ck pic” thing just doesn’t have the same level of respectability. Maybe it’s because dudes on OKCupid think it’s the ideal way to snag a lady friend? I’m not really sure.
We tracked down nine men who were willing to not only admit that they’ve sent a D!ck pic (or two or three or more), but also tell us why, oh why, they do such things. I’ve yet to meet a woman who’s ever said, “And he sent me a D!ck pic and it was awesome!”
But while some of us may not be able to appreciate their, um, manhood, we can at least now start to figure out why the hell they do it.
1. It’s about pride…
“When I used to do it, it was often a mixture of pride and … pride. I only ever rarely did it unsolicited but I’d never gotten a ‘Why did you do that?!’ And I occasionally got a couple of “do that again, please,” responses.
“Now, as an older, rational man, I frown upon unsolicited D!ck pics because it’s just wrong, even if the only reason most men do it is because they hope you’ll show your tits in return. All that said, if a woman asks, it’s a request that should be fulfilled immediately because more often than not, it’s a test.”
2. It’s nice to get a compliment…
“Either I was asked for it or I knew that the person would respond positively. It feels good to have someone compliment your junk or tell you that they want it.”
3. I was hoping to get a photo of them in return…
“I’ve always thought of it as tit for tat. If I send it, even if they don’t ask for it, I assumed it would get me a Nakked picture of them. But I would like to point out that I haven’t tried that since I was 25 or so … so it’s been about five years.”
4. So she knows she gave me an erection…
“It has always been in the middle of some dirty texting and it made sense to share how hard she made me.”
5. I thought it would be an honor for her…
“Let’s pretend I might have considered it in my teens. Those years predate mobile phone cameras (or even digital ones) so honestly, teenage me would have probably considered it an honor for the woman to receive a large oil painting of my trouser business.”
6. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking…
“I can’t answer this because I don’t know why I’ve done it. It’s usually after I’ve been drinking and for some reason it just makes sense. The next morning I always realize it was a stupid and childish move but it doesn’t stop me from doing it again when I’ve had too much to drink.”
7. I was asked for it…
“Because I’ve been asked. Plain and simple. If someone I’m into wants a picture of my D!ck, then why wouldn’t I oblige?”
8. I’m just a guy…
“I’ve yet to meet a woman who has said that D!cks are nice to look at it. So maybe subconsciously I’m trying to change that thought with mine? It’s either that or I’m just a guy.”
9. I assume it might be erotic…
“Since it’s erotic for me to get a picture of any part of a woman’s body, I assumed it might be erotic for her, too. But my wife put an end to that after I tried that once when we were still dating. She still makes fun of me for it.

Reason that make men to get sleep easily after $ex

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Many women still seek the answers to these questions. Is it abnormal to fall asleep after intercourse?Not at all.The tiredness that appears after intercourse is a natural reaction of the human body to the effort it has made.
But most times, if a man does not cuddle up with his woman after he has had sex, and if he does not talk and if he simply lays on his back and goes to sleep, it is natural for a woman to jump to conclusions, thinking her partner is simply not satisfied.Their beliefs are wrong. Here are some real reasons men fall asleep after intercourse:
Fact #1 Sex during the night, especially when the human body is already tired, becomes the first argument for the state of sleepiness that occurs after having sex. The actual intercourse does not even have to be very ‘solicitating’. You should keep in mind that sex, by its nature, is very relaxing.
Fact # 2 Men ejaculate during orgasm, and the hormones that are set free induce the state of lethargy. The sleep sensation manifests more intensely than on a regular basis. Even if the tension of the body is a positive one, it is also a very big, almost exhausting one.
Fact # 3 Plenty of people tend to hold their breath from time to time while they are having sex. Its rhythm becomes abrupt and the pulse intensifies. Therefore, there is a lack of oxygen, which contributes to the need to rest – nothing serious, everything comes back to normality in the postlude.
Fact # 4 The state of sleep should be interpreted in a positive way, because it proves the fact that you have reached an orgasm and that everything has gone alright. In rare cases, men who are exhausted during and after intercourse, on a longer period of time may suffer from medical problems.
In this case, leave your inhibitions and self-pride aside and have a complete check-up.
Quick tip # 1 If you are looking for a quick solution, drink coffee before going to bed with your partner. We cannot say that it is a long-term solution, but it is also an effective erotic stimulus. Caffeine can be your main ally in the fight against tiredness; but it can also harm as it can affect the nervous system, making one over excited and under revved.
Quick tip # 2 Really refreshing is a citrus, especially a grapefruit, very cold, right from the fridge. At the opposite pole we find alcohol. Do not use it in large quantities; its effect is exactly the opposite.

The benefit people get from sex

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7 Healthy Reasons to Have Sex (Right Now!)
As if the big “O” wasn’t reason enough to get busy, sex has many other benefits that just might surprise you.
By Madeline R. Vann, MPH
Medically Reviewed by Pat F. Bass, III, MD, MPH
Want to clear your complexion, boost your mood, and cut your risk of cancer, heart disease, and other health hazards? No, the answer isn’t in a magic pill — it’s between your sheets. That’s right — a little lovin’ can boost your overall health in many surprising ways.
“There have been lots of studies describing the health benefits of sex,” says licensed sex therapist and sexuality educator Sandra L. Caron, PhD, professor of family relations and human sexuality at the University of Maine’s College of Education and Human Development in Orono. “Most of them relate to achieving orgasm. Nobody says you have to be with someone to do that.”
That’s an intriguing sex tip for people who do not have a committed partner — self-pleasuring can offer sex benefits, especially those specifically related to having a good orgasm.
So, whether you’re coupled up or flying solo, check out this list of healthy side effects of sex:
Improved heart health. Just like any physical activity, healthy sex is good for your heart. Several studies have found that your risk of dying from a heart disease event such as stroke or heart attack goes down as the frequency of your good orgasms increase over time. And for those that worry that the exertion involved in sex is a threat to the heart, analyses show that the most sexually intense moments (assuming you aren’t unusually vigorous in your activities) place about the same demand on your heart as walking 4 to 6 miles an hour. Of course, it helps your heart and your sex life overall to stay in shape.
Sweet pain relief. Just looking at your partner (or even a photo of your partner) can help ease pain. When anesthesiologists showed people taking part in a study photos of their romantic partners or photos of attractive strangers, or asked them to engage in a word game, they found that looking at romantic partners significantly dulled the experience of pain. So even though you might think pain is a barrier to sex, consider this one sex benefit worth the time and effort: take a moment to really look at your lover. Other studies have found that women may get some relief from menstrual cramps through a good orgasm.
Less stress. Healthy sex offers the same soothing effects of sugary comfort foods when it comes to reducing stress. Researchers theorize that this stress reduction occurs because the pleasure pathways of the brain are triggered by sex (just as they are, for some, by shweet treats) — and it looks like this effect is a little bit more lasting than we often think.
Cancer prevention. Research has suggested that men may reduce their risk of prostate cancer proportionately to their good orgasms and the stimulation of their testicles. While more research is needed, this would certainly be a welcome sex benefit.
Better sleep. Although experts are not sure exactly why sex works to improve sleep, there appears to be some evidence that it does. So don’t be too surprised if you and your partner doze off shortly after a satisfying sexcapade — and wake up feeling refreshed!
Better mood. It’s no wonder you’ve got a more positive outlook post-sex: There are biochemical rationales for experiencing improved mood as a sex benefit, from the neurotransmitters that may be released during healthy sex to the mood enhancers contained in semen itself. “And”, adds Caron, “there’s a lot to be said simply for the mood-boosting effect of having a nice connection with somebody that you trust and care about.”
glowing skin. That fabled ‘morning-after’ glow? It’s not just your imagination: You really do look better after having sex. “Sex even helps you look younger,” says Caron. That glow can be attributed to a combination of stress relief, better mood, and the flush of blood under your skin that’s a natural part of the arousal process.

Friday, December 23, 2016

7 secret things men will always keep from their wife

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If you’re interested in the secret lives of men, here are 10 big, common things that your man will probably never, ever tell you.
1. He’s insecure about his body.
He is. Even if he looks like David Beckham. Men might not always pay attention to their personal hygiene, but that doesn’t mean that he’s not hyper-sensitive about every love handle, wrinkle, or graying hair on his body. He might wear the same hoodie every day, but he still worries that he’s not as pretty as he once was.
2. He doesn’t have anyone to talk to.
Male friendships are decidedly different than female friendships. One of the biggest differences is that, typically, men don’t use their friends as a sounding board for what’s going on in their lives. They might discuss vacation plans, TV shows, or how things are going at work, but way too often, men don’t feel comfortable talking with their buddies about life, death, anxiety, fear, and everything in between.
And that’s a shame. It’s a lonely shame.
3. No one compliments him.
Men get a lot of validation in school and office settings, but there isn’t really a culture that supports men receiving casual compliments from their peers. Are you mad that your man didn’t notice your new jeans? When was the last time you noticed his new shirt? Or the last time you told him that he looked great when it wasn’t a special occasion? Men need the same kind of validation that women need — they’re just not good at asking for it.
4. He likes kids.
It can be hard to admit this because society is VERY weird about grown men and children.
When a dad takes his kids to the park, way too often, moms give him the suspicious stink-eye the whole time. And, if one of his kids’ friends falls down and skins their knee, he can’t hug and comfort the crying child without being hyper-aware of who’s watching and judging every word and action.
Yes, he knows that, statistically, more men abuse children than women, but it still feels awful to be perpetually presumed guilty of attempted pedophilia when he’s just trying to take his niece to the playground.
5. He doesn’t know what you did with your hair.
Unless you do something REALLY drastic, there’s a better-than-average chance thatyour man might not notice if you get highlights or chop off an inch here or there. But that’s not because he doesn’t pay attention to you. It’s because — men have boring hair. The vast majority of men REALLY do not have ANYTHING interesting going on up there.
Realize that your man probably doesn’t even have the verbal or visual vocabulary to recognize what your hairdresser did today.
He’s not being apathetic. And he knows it’s not at all romantic that he has no clue.
He just doesn’t know what to look for, so cut him some slack.
6. It hurts when you hit him.
Remember when you got pissed at your boyfriend/husband and angrily slapped him? Or punched him in the back a few times? It hurt. It even left a mark.
But men aren’t supposed to admit that. And your man finds it particularly worrisome because he knows that if he did the same thing back to you, he’d probably be in the back of a cop car right now. (Rightly so.) Yes, men are bigger, but it doesn’t mean that the same rules don’t apply when it comes to angry physical contact. Abuse is abuse. Don’t hit him.
7. He’s afraid.
He’s afraid of losing his job, getting sick, going crazy, dying alone. He has all of the same anxieties and fears that you do (and a few that are uniquely his own). But he doesn’t know how to deal with them.
He doesn’t have friends to talk his fears over with, his parents might’ve stigmatized getting help with his issues, and he doesn’t want to look weak in front of his girlfriend/wife/special friend.
So, even if your man talks a big game, realize that he’s as scared and human as the rest of us. He might never admit it in mixed company, but, if you really know him, you’ll be able to see it behind his eyes without him ever having to say a word.
And, if you can be there to hold his hand during those long, lonely nights, without him having to ask, he’ll be more grateful than you can ever imagine.

Things that make relationship to always collapsed

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More often than not, a happy life has to do with the quality of your relationship with your sweetheart.
With so much work that is put in to them, relationships are difficult to lose. So the question is, why do some relationships fail?
Let’s take a look at these 7 reasons:
1. Not putting your relationship first
Society doesn’t teach us to value our relationships or about the daily commitment that healthy relationships require. Sometimes our careers and our kids take the lead and our relationships come third, fourth, or even tenth on the list of obligations.Relationships take quality time and commitment. For example, if you stop having $ex, the desire to will completely fade, or if you stop talking about your hopes and dreams with your spouse, you will grow further apart.
Just like with most things in life, you receive what you give.
2. You seek external validation
Sometimes people are not comfortable with who they are and they end up looking for validation through a significant other. When your sense of self is constantly unstable, you look for validation elsewhere.
When you don’t have a clear sense of who you are or what you want in life, you will forever keep trying to mold yourself to become what you think other people want to be. Relationships are about loving and accepting one another as you truly are.
3. Low self-esteem
For both partners to feel valued and secure in a relationship, they both need to have self-esteem and feel secure with who they are. When a person has low self-esteem, they depend on a relationship for security, which can backfire and lead to doubt. Having confidence in yourself and in your significant other is the healthiest thing you can do for your relationship.
4. Infidelity
This one is obvious…
5. Controlling behavior
If both partners in a relationship are not equal, it can cause conflict. However, it’s not as clear-cut and may take some time to manifest in the relationship.
Controlling behavior can fall under the desire or need to control one another’s finances, needing the other’s permission to do something or making decisions without consulting each other first.
6. Narcissism
There is no room for selfish behavior in a relationship. Narcissist’s only look out for their personal interests and don’t care about their spouse’s day-to-day life.
This, in turn, can build resentment as the selfish individual constantly uses charm and manipulation to get what they want.
Relationships are partnerships, which means they are based on compassion and compromise. If one half of the relationship refuses to compromise and leaves the other person out, things will not end well.
7. Money
Money by itself isn’t going to break up a relationship, but how both of you manage it will. Couples who fight over their finances and degrade one another on how their expenses are used are setting their relationships up for failure. If one partner blames the other for debts or for not pulling their weight, anger, blame and resentment can start to settle in.
Relationships are complicated, but they also evolve. Sure, all these 7 reasons by can bring a relationship to a end, but at the same time they can also be avoided with awareness and a desire to do better.

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Things men will always do to their girlfriend when they are inlove

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If he does these 7 things constantly, he is obviously in love with you….. read on.
1. He always texts you “Good Morning”
You can know if your boyfriend loves you or not if you are the first he thinks about in the morning. This is a sign that he is really into you, though most boys are not good in expressing their feelings but they try to show their love by sending you good morning wishes.
2. He is curious to know what you are doing
Most people are really boastful and it is human’s nature. If your boyfriend continually check up on you, that’s the point when you know he is all yours. Though, they might pretend they don’t care as much as they do inside, do not be deceived because that is one of their many ways of expressing their feelings. When I mean checking on you it doesn’t mean in a clingy and invasive manner.
3. He is interested to know how you spent your day and he listens attentively
If he wants to know every details about your day like what you did? Where you went to? What you bought and other stories, that is a sign he truly loves you and wants to be with you forever. Even if he did not spend his day with you, he wants to be in it by just listening about it.
4. He can do anything to solve your problems
Ladies are easily irritated by their boyfriends being lazy and not helping them with their work. If your boyfriend puts himself at risk just to solve your issue, he is always there to pick you up regardless of the distance and he helps you choose what you should buy and buy as much as you like, then you are lucky.
5. His face glows with happiness as he sees you
Love is when you cherish beautiful memories and plan a cheerful future ahead. Your boyfriend is definitely in love with you if his eyes sparkles immediately he sees your face. He gives all his attention to you when you are around.
6. He respects your opinion
He always asks about your opinion and choices, he respects your opinion in every matter and like to know your views about world and relationships. It’s a way of planning for the future when your partner ask for your choice in every matter.
7. He loves to spend time with you and not just get in your P@nts
Most times guys say emotional things to girls especially the three magical words just to get in bed with that girl, but that is not the case with your guy. You both spend cute moments together and have inside jokes about stuffs without $ex, obviously he loves you without $ex

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Why people always make sex in their office

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Here are 4 situations and what you do when you find yourself in an office romance with a colleague.



1. The fling
Just started an office affair, tread more cautiously. You don’t want to set the office gossip mills abuzz.
What to do: Until it’s serious, hide it.



2. Dating the boss
A minefield: get together with the boss and you are sleeping your way to the top. And if you are the boss you’ll be accused of abusing power.
What to do: Switch your sights to someone more lateral to you. Or hide it at all cost.


3. Forbidden romance
Some offices have strict dating policies, but the forbidden fruit always seems sweeter. Ask yourself: are you looking for passion or promotion?
What to do: Follow company guidelines.


4. Dating the partner
Starting a business with your significant other is a good and bad thing. Good because you can discuss anything, bad because the personal and professional mix.
What to do: Cultivate smaller egos.
Nearly 5 per cent of workers who have had an office romance say they have left a job because of an office relationship gone sour.

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Reason why woman are comfortable without pants

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Here is something I have wanted to share for a while but have not quite got the guts to say it out loud without turning a shade darker on the cheeks, so I would rather write it out; panties and panty lines. 

Every girl has that one killer skirt or dress that hugs her figure so tight any man would want to be in its place. It perfectly outlines your asset and when you wear it, you feel on top of the world because wherever you pass heads turn and jaws drop. 

That guy you have a crush on glaringly notices you and just can’t stop hovering around you at work, sometimes this is the main reason you wore it anyway (*wink). You love it to bits and anything that dares to come between you is met with resistance. Mine in this case is an ivory high waist pencil skirt I bought while I was in Mombasa.
The colour, material and design was nothing short of perfection. I like to say the day I saw it we had a connection, it was like it had been sitting in that stall waiting for me. One glance at it and it just felt right so without hesitating I bought it, only to realize later on my way back to the hotel that I was short of bus fare but what the heck I had the skirt of my life.

I kept it for special occasions like when I wake up feeling on top of the world and I want to kick ass at work or school, or when I want to look pretty for bae. Most of the time, it was for the first reason. On this specific date I woke up feeling on fire, and ladies in the house can relate, I wanted to look extra pretty for me, I mean who doesn’t like to look at fabulous self in car mirrors as she walks? 

Every girl has some narcissistic minx in her, I know I do. So I picked it out and to draw more attention to it I wore a plain black buttonless shirt and black ballet shoes. voila there I was looking my best make up and all. I wanted to keep the feeling alive with loads of pictures, so I struck poses everywhere and anyhow; with a statue, in front of the library, at the studio, you get the drift. My strict instructions to the photographer was to make sure my skirt stood out and he did a pretty good job, they were some of the best pictures I ever took. I was however not so happy when I perused through my phone later on in the evening, as I took a closer look at a picture where I had accentuated my dear bum, there I saw it, a panty line. 

It was quite annoying when it made a distinct unsightly ridge therefore disturbing the natural scenery of my contour. I felt betrayed because it was supposed to be seamless, but there it was rearing its ugly frame and destroying my look altogether. Alvin my trusted photographer for the day laughed when I pointed it out and even suggested I go panty-less if it was such a big issue. He even mentioned close friends of mine who did not wear panties in such instances. 

My first reaction was a big laugh, then the thought honestly lingered a bit in my mind and I played around with the idea, but there was no way that was going to happen. It seemed naughty and funny at the same time to walk around the whole day without knickers but who am I to judge, everyone can swing to the beat of their own drum right? It is a free world. When I couldn’t stop whining about it he suggested thongs and G-strings but I swear I’d rather go panty-less, those are not my thing, call me a prude, but they look creepy and super uncomfortable. 

Anyway long depressing story short, I found a lasting solution to solve my problem so that I never have that feeling again. Super seamless knickers, they are so thin and comfortable and they will have you swinging your behind with delight without having to make routine checks to see if that line is too distinct. Some people have no problem at all with panty-lines one lady once confessed, she can’t leave the house without one, some men even think it is super sexy but once again, who am I to judge? 

My only issue is with the ladies who don’t put on panties at all but wear super short dresses and skirts, then go gyrating about in broad daylight. I will have to swing my gavel on this one and have you locked up for indecent public exposure, because truth be told some ladies grow a whole forest in their fertile Netherlands. Please cover your flower and spare us all the shame and torment.