Thursday, March 30, 2017

7 reason why it is very importance to have sex everyday

It could lower his risk of prostate cancer. According to a study from Harvard Medical School, men who ejaculated more often reduced their risk of developing prostate cancer by 22 percent. Researchers still don’t know why that is, but hey, if you needed one more reason to hit that tonight, having your guy avoid getting cancer is a pretty solid one.
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2. Your chance of getting a cold goes way, way down. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that people who had sex at least twice a week released more antigens like immunoglobulin A, which helps fight off colds and the flu, so just think of how healthy you’d be if you had sex all seven days. You’d be basically immortal is what I’m trying to say.
3. It keeps you looking super young and confident. In a study by Scottish researcher and clinical neuropsychologist David Weeks, judges guessed the ages of 3,500 European and American women and men, and found that the people whose age was underestimated by seven to 12 years were also reporting having sex three times a week, in comparison to the control group which was doing it twice a week. They also found these young-looking babes to be really comfortable and confident about their sexual identity. Win, win, win, win.
4. It’ll help get rid of your heinous menstrual cramps. A study done in 2000 found that 9 percent of 1,900 women were masturbating solely to get rid of their menstrual cramps. There’s no way that many masturbating women are wrong.
5. It could make you crazy-fertile, if you’re trying to conceive. A new study in Fertility and Sterility found that having sex every day could help prepare your immune system for pregnancy, which is critical in terms of increasing your chances of having a baby.
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6. It lowers your blood pressure and your ability to stress out over basically nothing. A 2005 study found that people who had penile-vaginal intercourse (their words, not mine) had lower blood pressure and better stress responses than people who didn’t (or those who masturbated or had non-penetrative sex), which in theory would mean they were also way more chill. Never a bad thing.
7. Sex can actually make you a super genius. Separate studies by researchers at the University of Maryland and Konkuk University in Seoul, South Korea, found that mice and rats who had sex more often were also less stressed, and since stress makes your brain less able to function, that made them more intelligent thinkers.

seven sex position men and woman love so much

The bedroom moves that men love: try these s*x positions tonight.
Want to spice things up in the bedroom? Make his night and drive him crazy with these s*x positions that men love. Ultimately, s*x is about love and intimacy, so while the positions are part of the fun, the real payoff is the way various maneuvers allow you to connect and explore each other in different ways.
1. 1. Woman on Top
2. Missionary
This standard go-to is a favorite because it puts him in control, while still being intimate: your hips are free to do all the work, and you can lock lips and eyes with ease. And while he’s in the power position on top of you, the two of you can set the pace together. If you want him to go slower or deeper, put your hands on his hips and guide him. The best s*x is like a conversation, and missionary allows you to communicate with your bodies.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
This reverse variation of the woman on top position is the best of both worlds for your guy. It gives him the $exy view he gets during doggie style but it puts you in control. This position doesn’t allow for a ton of touching or eye contact, but it’s a nice contrast to some of the more classic, romantic positions. If you’re craving a connection flash a look back at him while you’re doing your thing—it’ll drive both of you over the edge.
4. Doggie Style
This rear entry positions puts him in control, allowing him to call the shots and to go at the speed that’s best for him. Plus, it allows for deeper penetration, making him feel like king in the bedroom. Some women love the intense full feeling, but if it feels like too much, let him know. Communication is key to enjoying s*x and experiencing the full psychological benefits of physical intimacy.
5. Standing Up
Getting it on while standing up is probably not your go-to move, but it’s perfect for that sweaty, gotta-have-you-now s*x that’ll make him feel irresistible. Whether he’s bending you over the new kitchen table or you’re steadying yourself against the wall, this spontaneous position is perfect for a quickie.
6. Spooning
s*x while spooning is the ultimate intimate position, and a go-to for when you’re feeling lazy and affectionate. Not only does it give him total access to your bod, it also frees your digits up so that you can give yourself a hand, a move that’s sure to drive him wild. Make it even hotter by twisting your body and head slightly towards him so you can smooch while his hands roam. Afterward you can slip into an easy, snuggley sleep.
7. lap dance
Pull up a chair and have him take a seat while you get on top. He’ll love the look and feel of you straddling him, and having you in control will help him last longer, too. A bonus? Unlike the standard woman-on-top position, this ones allows for you to stay super close, kiss, and make eye contact. Plus, he still gets to be aggressive with his hands, tugging on your hair, rubbing your back, and pulling you closer.
So, there you have it, give it all to your husband and enjoy a $exful marriage. And hey, to you the unmarried reading this, s*x is worth waiting for!

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Some ways you can be a good kisser

As cliché as it sounds, a kiss can feel like a Michael Bay-level explosion, or it can make you feel absolutely nothing at all. And if a common goal of the kiss is helping determine your attaction to someone, lip-locking can also establish a budding relationship: it’s the great divide between friend and lover.
After all, a kiss can be just as intimate as sex, and just as important. (I, for one, remember certain smooches more than most of my sexual encounters.) But there’s more nuance to a simple kiss than just an equation of lips and tongues, and there are easy ways to set the pace even if you’re not the most experienced kisser. Below, 10 tips on how to make the most out of a make-out session (sorry, I had to) like you’re a seasoned pro.

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1. Freshen Up
It’s common sense, but too many people are guilty of going without correcting bad breath. Practice self-awareness and make sure you keep your teeth clean and your breath fresh. It doesn’t matter how good a kisser you are, since a fresh whiff of garlic can really kill the mood, especially if you’re just getting to know each other.
2. Build the Moment
Whether it’s the end of a first date, or after a few weeks of dating, the anticipation you build creates tension which can only be broken by…a kiss (just kidding, but really). It’s just like any moment of conflict in any good developing story! Just make sure you don’t wait so long that the other person questions whether you’re interested in them.
3. Work Your Eyes
When you’re leaning in for a kiss, you can’t use your mouth to speak, so why not say something with eye contact? When you’re actually mid-kiss, though, dial it back a bit since it can be a little creepy when one of you has your eyes open, and it can be distracting. Just as a blind person’s other four senses are enhanced, temporary blindness during a kiss can intensify the way it feels—the sound of another person’s breathing or the gentle touch of their hand.

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4. Kiss People You Like
We’re all guilty of kissing people we could care less about: maybe on the dance floor, or during a moment of weakness late night in the bar. If you only kiss people you really want to kiss, those kisses will feel a lot better and you’ll naturally be more invested in them. Kissing too many people might lead to numbness. But on the other hand, there’s always the manta “practice makes perfect.”
5. Take Your Time
Kissing is a team effort. Don’t squelch someone’s spirit by going on the offensive (AKA getting too heavy-handed with tongue) or trying too hard to control the situation. Feel out each other’s tendencies and kissing styles, and go from there.
6. Mind Your Tongue
Tongue use can be great, or horrible. Remember, it’s a kiss, not a facial wash. No one likes to be attacked by a tongue, or have their entire mouth filled by someone’s tongue. But a tongue used well can make a kiss magical.

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7. Pay Attention to Surroundings
Whether it’s candlelight, a tent under the stars, in the ocean, or in a sudden rain storm, special new surroundings make a kiss interesting. Because your eyes are closed most of the time during a kiss, you’ll hear and even feel the things that are happening around you more clearly.
8. Be Spontaneous
Catching someone off guard with a kiss can be a wonderful thing. Give them a little gift when they least expect it.
9. Control Your Saliva
Make sure, like your tongue, you control your saliva. No one needs a river of slobber down their chin.
10. Explore
Don’t get fixated on someone’s face. Touching their neck or sides, or just holding them close during a kiss can add a new level of intimacy to an already special moment.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Ways on how to get a new girl friend

These tips are ones that I believe can be used to make new girl friends no matter where you live. They are specifically geared toward women, but with some minor tweaks can be applicable to guys too!
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1) Join some sort of group.
This is one of the easiest ways to meet like-minded people who probably want to make friends as well. Some ideas:
* a church/church group
* volunteer somewhere
* fitness classes
* other hobby classes (cooking, sewing, etc.)
* networking events in your industry
2) Tag along with someone who has a big social circle.
I’m not saying to be a leech, but chances are that someone who has a large circle of friends will be more than willing to let you in. Be honest with them — say you’re looking to make new friends, and would love to join on the next group hangout.
3) Start off with a compliment.
The most awkward part of making a new girl friend is just starting a conversation with them. I’ve found that simply complimenting other girls is the easiest way to break the ice and find a common thing for you to chat about. Not to mention I think girls should make it more of a point to compliment one another, but we’ll save that for another post.
4) Organize a girls’ night.
This is something I’ve learned from my best friend Jessi. From the moment I met her, she was the type of person that always created fun opportunities. Start a group text or email chain with a group of girls, and figure out a date that you can all go out to dinner, or have a night in of baking and pedicures. Most girls love these opportunities, so why not be the one who organizes them?
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5) Always give the benefit of the doubt.
Don’t be that girl who assumes all other girls are b*tches. Sure, there are some bad seeds out there, but I like to believe that most girls are nice if you give them the chance. For some reason, girls have been wired to automatically not like other girls (what is UP with that?), and I suggest going against that mentality as much as possible.
Practically speaking, giving a girl a compliment (as mentioned above) is actually a great way to gauge whether she’s friend-material or not. For example, if her response to “I love your shoes!” is “I know, right??” then… well, eh.
6) Utilize social media.
I’ve met some amazing girls through social media and blogging — including my best friend Monica. Millions of people are finding dates online these days, so why not use the Internet to find friends? If it feels too weird for you, start by “friending” or following someone who you have mutual friends with. And… it’s 2017, so get over thinking it’s weird!
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7) You have to take the initiative.
I think that this is what it all boils down to. When it comes to making new friends… it’s a mindset that you just have to have. Stop hoping that someone will notice you sitting all alone and reach out to you. I’ve tried that before, and it rarely works. Sorry I’m not sorry for the tough love, but the truth is that YOU are the one responsible when it comes to making new friends. So put yourself out there, will ya?

Monday, March 27, 2017

Ways on how to overcome fear of being single forever

I want you to believe you are a worthy person. I want you to believe that you deserve to be loved and to find a romantic partner that will cherish you. Get rid of the fear of being forever single, because it is just that: a fear, an emotion that you have about yourself, a belief about your future—not reality.
Here are 10 ways to help you see things the way they really are:
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
Take an honest look at how often you put yourself down during an average day. How often do you criticize yourself by telling yourself things like: I’m so stupid. I’m too fat. I’m too old. I’m ugly. I’m damaged goods. I always screw things up. I’m an idiot. And so on and so forth. Rings a bell? Well if you talk to yourself in this way, your mood will drop, your fears and insecurities will increase, and you are basically conditioning yourself to believe you are an unworthy person. Your thoughts have a direct impact on how you feel.
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It’s simple. Think good things: feel good. Think bad things: feel bad.
You are doing this to yourself! Stop it! Be gentle with yourself. Maybe someone else made you believe you were unworthy through criticism, abuse, or rejection. Don’t give your power away just because some fool criticized you. Honey, you’re the bomb! Who was this fool, anyway? Forgive yourself for making mistakes. When the voice of negative self-talk comes on, try this: Tell the voice to leave you alone; tell your inner voice to stop pestering you; say to yourself: I’m a worthy person. It’s a no brainer, hot-stuff: if you keep focusing on your perceived shortcomings, you’ll trick yourself into believing no one will ever want to be with you.
2. Feel Good About Yourself
This cannot be said enough. Imagine you walked into a car dealership and the salesman told you he had a car for you. He says, “Well, it’s kinda old and beat up. It still runs, but it’s high on gas, there’s a few scratches on the paint, and I’m not sure how reliable it is.” Now, how much would you want to buy that car? You’d be out of there in a New York second and looking for something better in no time, I’m quite sure. Why? Because if the person selling you the car doesn’t even believe in the quality of the car, why should you?
This is exactly why you need to increase your confidence and self-esteem. If you don’t believe in what you are selling, then why should others? Confidence is attractive. If you believe you have something valuable to offer, so will others. The more you truly love yourself, the more convinced you’ll be that you will find your soul mate.
3. Realize You Have Something Valuable to Offer
What are some of your great qualities? Are you an honest, hard-working, sensitive person? Are you an athletic, artistic, family-oriented individual? Are a relaxed, easy-going person, or an organized, efficient person? Not only can you find someone who shares the same interests and qualities that you hold, but you can also complement (not complete with!) your future partner by bringing in your own strengths to the relationship. Basically, don’t think only about what you want from a relationship, but think about what you bring to a relationship and how someone will be happy to benefit from your great qualities.
4. Change the Way You Think and Feel About the Opposite Sex
So many individuals hold false beliefs about the opposite sex. Because you’ve had bad experiences, your way to appraise the opposite sex has changed.
What are the beliefs you hold about the opposite sex? Do you think things like:
.All men are jerks.
.Men only want sex.
.Men fear relationships.
.Men can’t be faithful.
.All women are gold diggers.
.All women are emotional explosions.
.All the good ones are taken.
Well, that’s simply not true. Men want love and marriage just as much as women do. There are still plenty of great, fun-loving, charming, and gentle people out there. If you hold these negative thoughts about the opposite sex, your fear of staying single forever multiplies because you are constantly telling yourself that there is no one for you out there. I know a ton of great single males and females who would love to be in a reciprocal loving relationship. A ton!
5. Change the Way You Think and Feel About Being Single
Have you noticed how being married and having children has become a measure of personal success and worth? There seems to be tremendous social pressure to be in a relationship, especially for women. No matter how successful a woman is, if she’s single, people think she’s either unhappy or so difficult to get along with that she can’t make a relationship work. This makes being single look like some sort of personal failure. You are not a failure. Your personal value is exactly the same whether you are single or in a relationship. Honestly, you could be in a relationship today if you wanted to. It probably wouldn’t be a great relationship, but you’d be in a relationship. So being single just means that you want to wait for Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now; or it can mean you have taken time to heal from your previous relationship (which seems wise).
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6. Focus on What You Do Have
Be grateful for friends and family. Your fear of being alone makes you feel and act desperate (I know—I’ve been there, too). But nobody wants to fill the position of the interchangeable boyfriend or girlfriend. People want to know you love them for who they are, and that you don’t just need someone to take care of you. Be grateful for all the beautiful things that you do have. Focusing on the one thing that is missing from your life makes you miss the larger picture: You have tons of great things going for you already!
7. Schedule Activities Every Week and Enjoy Yourself
Make the most of your time alone and enjoy yourself. Being in a relationship leaves less time for hanging out with friends, reading books, scheduling activities that are just for you (no matter how great your new boyfriend is, I doubt he’ll want to go have bikini wax with you). See this as a relational-vacation time! Go out there and have some fun. By filling your life with activities, you won’t focus on the “emptiness” as much. Instead, you’ll see that you have a rich life, and you’ll feel happier. Being happier will make you an instant date-magnet! People want to be around happy people. Confidence is the most attractive outfit.
8. Don’t Idealize Other People’s Relationships
Unfortunately, feeling loved and building a significant relationship is so important that a lot of people will prefer to stay in a bad relationship than to be single. Some people build relationships before they get rid of their fear of being single and alone, before they identify what they want, or before they heal the hurt of past relationships. Are you part of those who try to heal the hurt from a previous relationship with the next? Some people who do this are lucky enough to find a good partner, yes, but not everyone. Some fall into relationships that don’t correspond to their personal needs and they wake up 10 years later caught in the middle of a relationship full of turmoil. Not all couples are happy ones. Be grateful that you have something new and shiny to look forward to—you can wait and choose the kind of partner that really corresponds with your needs.
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9. Don’t Be Jealous of Other’s Relationships
Do you feel a pang of bitterness when your colleague tells you she’s getting married? Or when your friend tells you about an amazing date that she’s had? You might be thinking “Why her? Why not me?”—and there goes your day. Feel happy for people who find their soul mate, send out positive thoughts out to happy couples you meet on the street. When you see a happy couple holding hands, think: “How lovely, that’s what I want! I can’t wait to see who’ll be the person holding my hand soon!” This positive thought automatically shifts your perspective and formulates an optimistic view of your own relational future.
10. Seek Professional Help
If you need a bit of extra support in building your self-worth, why not seek help from a therapist? On your path to building greater love and respect or yourself, a little of support and validation can go a long way. Going to therapy doesn’t mean there is something “wrong” with you; it means you’ve decided to take matters in your own hands and to recruit a professional to help you reach your goal.
Thanks for reading. All the best, and don’t forget to love yourself!

some of the things men always notice when they first saw a girl

Just as we women notice pretty much everything there is to notice about a guy on our first date, men do too! They may NEVER bring such things up in conversation (‘coz who wants to risk a first date!), but deep down, they’ve already secretly checked you out a few times. Yes, we know, dating can be quite nerve-wracking! So, if you’re wondering what you need to have on-point to nail that first date, we list out 8 things that we know men notice when they first meet a girl!
1. The Way She Carries Herself
Men are attracted to women who know how to carry themselves with elan. A confident posture is interpreted as “sexy” by most men! So ladies, the next time to bump into a cute guy, make sure that you’ve got your posture right and your sexy on!
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2. The Only Accessory That Matters…
Her smile. One of the few things a guy instantly notices about a girl is her smile. A genuine smile indicates happiness, optimism and friendliness, making him only more comfortable around you!
things guys notice about a girl
3. Pretty Peepers
Whoever said, eyes are the window to one’s soul, was not bluffing. Your eyes CAN communicate more than words. The way someone looks at you can tell you their intentions instantly. If he’s staring right into your eyes, know that he’s just trying to know more about you.
things guys notice about a girl
4. The Mane Issue
Believe it or not, men adore women with healthy hair. Hair do add dollops to your personality, and a man obviously notices that about you when he first meets you! If he’s been shifting his attention from your eyes to your hair, he’s probably mesmerized by it!
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5. Can She Talk The Walk?
A girl who is able to hold a conversation is already attractive in a guy’s mind. The way she talks, the tone she uses to put her point across and her ability to keep the conversation flowing are a few things guys find very attractive!
things guys notice about a girl
6. Her Sense Of Style
A classy dresser has already bagged brownie points from his end. The way she dresses gives him a certain impression about the woman’s personality and preferences. Her ability to give an outfit personality AND be comfortable in it is what amazes him!
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7. Nailed It!
Women are not the only ones who give attention to detail. Yes, men notice tiny things like your nails, especially when you’re meeting them for the first time! The way you’ve shaped and coloured your nails speaks volumes about your personality.
things guys notice about a girl
8. Foot Impression
How you maintain your feet is a thing a LOT of men notice, and care about. If a woman can look after her feet, she is someone who pays attention to detail and is meticulous about her hygiene – and that (believe it or not) is a quality men dig! Time to book that pedicure appointment, ladies!

Saturday, March 25, 2017

some mistake women always make

1. Dating the guy who makes obscure movie and TV references to see if you get them. It makes you appreciate the ones who don’t try so hard to be cool.
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2. Wearing the wrong thing to a job interview. So educational.
3. Cooking recipes that are waaay over your head, and messing them up. You don’t have to play it by the book to be a great cook.
4. Getting a Brazilian wax so you know never to get one again.
5. Splurging big bucks on a stunning, drop-dead-gorgeous dress…that will hang in your closet unworn for years because it’s simply not “you.” Every time you look at it you’ll be reminded to always stay true to your fashion self. Even if that self is more of a stunning jeans-and-tee girl.
6. Getting that trendy haircut.
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7. Dating the “bad boy.” Turns out Mr. Right should actually be nice!
8. Having at least one job that’s completely wrong for you—it helps you narrow down what you don’t want in a career.
9. Going to bed with an entire kitchen full of dirty dishes and glasses after hosting a party—because you’ll never, ever do it again.
10. Overdressing. (You may have been wrong, but let’s face it, you looked better than everyone there.)
11. Attempting natural childbirth. For some people, it’s the right choice. But now at least you know you’re the kind of woman who’ll TAKE THE DRUGS.
12. Wearing the cute, light-colored top with a 7-month old. Two words: green puke.
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13. Not listening to your mother. Now, life experiences have taught you that there was a good reason for all those manner, grammar and posture lessons, not to mention a heavy dose of compassion. Because she was right.

Signs on how to know that Your Partner Is Going To Cheat on you

Though no one expects a partner to cheat, it still happens anyway. So, what are the tell-tale signs of a partner who might likely cheat on you?
These ones…
• When s/he is emotionally distant.This disconnection is usually the prelude to a dying relationship. For a potential cheater, it’s easier to distance oneself emotionally from someone than to confront the real problem. Psychologists regard it as cowardly.

• Absence of s*xual intimacy. When two people are still in love, s*x is normal and it happens without prompting. However, once infidelity enters the picture, physical disconnection sets in and absence of s*x is its expression. . This is especially true is no prior issues existed in this area. If nothing else, this behavior is indicative of some type of emotional or physical disconnect. Regardless, given the importance of physical connection in a relationship, a serious discussion is in order.
• When your partner suddenly demands “privacy.” Of course, in any relationship, everyone needs the “me” time; but when your partner is always in need of time alone, something isn’t right and it may be another way of easing him/herself out of your relationship.
• A sudden defensive attitude. When one of the partners become defensive in everything, especially when the complaint has to do with observable shift in attitude, then watch out. You might be looking at a cheater right in front of you!
• Irregular financial habits. Two people involved in a serious relationship understand the importance of finance. Usually, any outgoing money is acknowledged and accounted for. If your partner, all of a sudden, drifts from this mutual understanding and engages in spending for which they cannot account, it may indeed be a sign of detachment at best – and infidelity, at worst.
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• Suddenly becoming fashion conscious. We all want to look our best for various reasons; most commonly, to look respectable and professional. However, an abrupt change in appearance without explanation is uncommon, especially for those who have shown little interest in the past. Those in a midlife crisis often cite a change in fashion as a sort of “motivation” to look younger and more presentable. Of course, the desire to appear more attractive to the opposite s*x is a very real possibility.
• S/he ignores your close friends. One tell-tale sign of a cheater is a sudden disconnect from your circle of friends. It seems strange and may be a forewarning of some relationship problem. For cheaters, it is much easier and convenient to separate from those close to you than to be upfront about their true feelings. This is even more conspicuous if your other half and social circle were close at one point in time.

Five (5) Ways Some Ladies are Destroying their Marriage Without Knowing

Some men and women do not know they are the ones who bring an end to their marriage or relationship with the things they do.

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1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”
Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances.
Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt for yourself and your husband is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy that designer shoes or bag you’ve had your eyes on recently, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed your mind.
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Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy.
3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem?
Put your husband first! Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because of neglect and to a large extent disrespect.
If you choose to put him first, you will find a lot of joy.
4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them. S*x should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.
It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (unless you are sick) and spend that time bonding.
5. Not speaking his language
Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then expect him to read your mind. Be open to your man and grow your marriage.
Some men and women do not know they are the ones who bring an end to their marriage or relationship with the things they do. READ ALSO The Pains of a Busty Lady *Photo used for illustrative purpose* 1. Living outside of what you can afford A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.” Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your finances. Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt for yourself and your husband is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family. Yes, you may not have enough to buy that designer shoes or bag you’ve had your eyes on recently, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides. 2. Constant negativity You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed your mind. READ ALSO Three (3) Things You Should Never Do After S*x for Your Own Safety Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains. If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy. 3. Putting everything else first When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do to your self esteem? Put your husband first! Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because of neglect and to a large extent disrespect. If you choose to put him first, you will find a lot of joy. 4. Withholding physical affection Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them. S*x should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God. It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it’s worth it to give in (unless you are sick) and spend that time bonding. 5. Not speaking his language Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand: Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle things up until you burst. If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then expect him to read your mind. Be open to your man and grow your marriage. READ ALSO 9 THINGS LADIES DO WHEN THEY VISIT A GUY THEY DON’T WANT TO SLEEP WITH

Feeling Intense Pain During s*x? Something Isn’t Right

For the average woman, pain during s*x is rather common; and most of the time, it can be fixed by either changing positions or using lubrication during s*x.
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However, if the pain continues or gets worse, it may be a sign that something is wrong internally. For instance, physicians say, deep pain during s*x can be a symptom of endometriosis, while a sudden, sharp pain during s*x could be a ruptured ovarian cyst.
Again, doctors say, fibroid or cervicitis — that is the inflammation of the cervix caused by sexually transmitted disease or other infection can also make s*x painful.
If the pain is more of a burning or stabbing around the opening of the v**ina, it could signal a condition called vulvodynia (a chronic pain syndrome that affects the vulva area and occurs without an identifiable cause.)
If you sense pain during the insertion of man-hood into the v**ina — or if you can’t even tolerate the insertion of anything into the v**ina, it may be due to a condition called vaginismus (a painful spasmodic contraction of the v**ina in response to physical contact or pressure, especially during s*xual intercourse).
Some people experience vaginal swelling, itching, and/or pain after s*x, especially if they use condom. If the pain only lasts for about 36 hours, you might just be allergic to latex.
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If you have a latex allergy, you can use the polyurethane condom as an alternative and avoid this allergic painful reaction.

five sex position you to try with your partner

The weekend is here again.. after all the hustle and bustle of the week, you retire back home to the loving arms of your partner.
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However, it is imperative that you keep our family life separate from business and social lives. Therefore, after all the week’s work, weekend should be family time with to be enjoyed fully with your partner. To spice things up this weekend, here are five s*x positions to surprise your bae with.

You lie on your right side; he kneels, straddling your right leg and curling your left leg around his left side.
With this s*x position you get the deeper penetration of doggy style while still being able to make that important eye contact.
Get your guy to put his hands to work.

You lie facedown on the bed, legs straight, hips slightly raised.
This s*x position creates a snug fit. Your guy’s man-hood will seem even larger.
Some shallow thrusts and deep breathing will help him last longer.

You lie back with your legs resting on each of his shoulders.
This s*x position is awesome because when you raise your legs, it narrows the v**ina and helps target your G-spot.
Ask him to start rocking you in a side-to-side or up-and-down motion. That should bring his man-hood into direct contact with your G-spot.

He sits on a chair or the edge of the bed; you face him, seated on his lap.
During this s*x position, you’re in control of the angle and depth of the entry and thrust. Being seated provides support, so it’s great for marathon s*x.
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Let your fingers (and hands) do the talking. Once seated, you can put your hands anywhere on your body or his to make things more interesting.

Similar to the popular cowgirl s*x position, you kneel on top of him, pushing off his chest and sliding up and down his thighs. But he helps by supporting some of your weight and grabbing your hips or thighs while he rises to meet each thrust.
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This s*x position puts sess stress on your legs, making climaxing easier. Plus, female-dominant s*x positions delay his climax, so everyone wins.
Alternate between shallow and deep thrusting to stimulate different parts of the v**ina.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

Love Vs Lust: The Difference Between The Woman He Sleeps With And The Woman He Loves

Ever thought about the differences between love and s*x? Sometimes we have carnal desires, other times, we yearn for an emotional connection. BUT. What the hell does it all mean to men? We think we have a pretty good idea. From ‘she’s the one’ to a casual romp in the bed, here are the 20 differences between the woman he sleeps with and the woman he loves…

1. The woman he SLEEPS with is his 12AM booty call
When he’s out and about with mates and isn’t getting lucky it’s OK. He always knows he has someone to call.

2. The woman he LOVES he’ll make sacrifices for
That means ditching the guys to spend time with his missus and doing things (i.e. shopping) that he wouldn’t normally want to do. Because, well, he loves her.
3. The woman he SLEEPS with can do whatever she wants
In a no strings attached kinda thing he doesn’t need to worry about how she’s doing or what’s she’s up to. They may not talk for one week, one month – it’s whatever-whenever.
4. The woman he LOVES gets him worried
The more he falls for her the more he wants to protect her. If she doesn’t call or isn’t responding to his texts, no doubt, he’ll show concern. And jealousy? Don’t even
5. The woman he SLEEPS with is ‘just for fun’
Never say no is the motto. If ANY man’s offered, he’ll take it. Trust us, we know what we’re talking about (it’s in Murphy’s Law On s*x).
6. The woman he LOVES is special
He always has a big cheesy grin on his face when he introduces her to new people and he’ll make sure they all know her name. Why? Because he wants them to appreciate her as much as he does.

7. The woman he SLEEPS with is convenient
She probably has very little expectations (that’s casual s*x for you) so for him it’s GREAT. Especially if he’s busy with studying or his career. No emotions, no money and ZERO investment. Not a bad deal, eh?
8. The woman he LOVES gets surprises
When a guy’s in love he likes to shower her with gifts. And not because women love material things (OK, just a little bit), but because he wants to see her happy! Nothing is more gratifying than making your girl smile.
9. The woman he SLEEPS with is shown her way out
After s*x, there’s no other reason for her to stick around. Cuddling? After-s*x chat? No way.
10. The woman he LOVES leaves her things at his
His home is her home away from home. Her tooth brush and spare clothes always have a place at his. And if she’s really lucky he’ll even do her laundry. Yeahuh.

11. The woman he SLEEPS with isn’t treated
For guys, casual s*x is casual s*x. But there are always women who think they can eventually change their minds. This is where they go wrong. Once a woman gives it all away he has no other reason to pursue her.
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12. The woman he LOVES teaches him how she wants to be treated
Men screw up. Yes. Not by cheating standards (there is zero tolerance for that) of course, mainly just in small ways that piss us off and make us feel less worthy than we really are.

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

These Four (4) Things You Should Never Do Before Having S*x With Your Partner (Very Important)

S*x is an amazingly thrilling experience that most people look forward to having with their partners, however certain things can limit the full enjoyment the experience affords.

When it comes to s*x, it is every married couple’s desire to enjoy it and still be able to relish the thought of it thereafter. Apart from the numerous health benefits of s*x to the human system, the pleasure that comes with it is electrifying and almost unrivalled.
Notably, there are many routes to $exual satisfaction, but the mostly adopted means of reaching climax is through intercourse, which is about the most effective for men, unlike women who are more likely to reach orgasm faster through nipple or clit0ral stimulation.
S*x is to be enjoyed, but understandably, there are medical conditions that prevent or forbid people from having $ex, usually for some time.
Meanwhile, beyond those conditions, there are some other things people do that may tamper with how much they enjoy $ex and even impact on their overall health afterwards.
Some of these issues directly affect $exual performance, while some are safety tips. Hence, it may be helpful to discuss what people should take cognisance of when they are about to have a romp in the sack so as to enjoy it and guide against infection.
These include:
1. Shaving or waxing before s*x:
Due to the belief that the pubic hair could breed unpleasant smell and because some people do find it D!sgust!ng, people tend to shave or use wax to remove the hair in that region. But inasmuch as being ‘clean’ in that region is seen as a good hygienic practice, experts have advised that it is advisable not to shave before $ex, simply because shaving or waxing tends to open up the small pores in the skin and while the $exual activity is ongoing, body contact could lead to infection, or rashes, which could multiply in little time because the place is usually warm and so germs and bacteria could multiply there quickly. Some people shave shortly before $ex because of the feeling that their partner might find the pubic hair unattractive.
A medical doctor, Emily Gibson, said removal of pubic hair would always inflame the hair follicles in that region and leave some open wounds that could cause irritation of the shaved or waxed area, leading to the spread of $exually transmitted infections.
She added, “When that irritation is combined with the warm moist environment of the genitals, it becomes a happy culture media for some of the nastiest of bacterial pathogens, namely group A streptococcus, staphylococcus aureus and its recently mutated cousin, methicillin resistant staph aureus.

“There is an increase in staph boils and abscesses, necessitating incisions to drain the infection, resulting in scarring that can be significant. It is not at all unusual to find pustules and other hair follicle inflammation papules on shaved genitals.
“Additionally, I’ve seen cellulitis, soft tissue bacterial infection without abscess of the scrotum, labia and Pen!s from spread of bacteria from shaving or from $exual contact with strep or staph bacteria from a partner’s skin. And some clinicians are finding that freshly shaved pubic areas and genitals are also more vulnerable to herpes infections due to the microscopic wounds being exposed to virus carried by mouth or genitals. It follows that there may be vulnerability to spread of other STIs as well.”
Also, a consultant endocrinologist, Dr. Michael Olamoyegun, explained that shaving before $ex does not influence performance, but that “in the course of shaving, the person can sustain injuries, and during s*x, there would be body contact and the ease of transmitting infection into the injured area would be high because the pubic hair serves as a form of protection.”
So, to avoid infections from creeping into your system courtesy of s*x, never shave before s*x.
2. Smoking:
Apart from the negative effect smoking has on the heart, it turns out that it also has an effect on people’s $exual performance. It could reduce libido as it lowers testosterone (s*x hormone) levels, hence, people are advised not to smoke before s*x. The same applies to taking alcohols.
According to a $exual health expert, Dr. Vijaysarathi Ramanathan, smoking could affect a man’s erection.
He said, “Smoking affects almost every system/organ of the body including $exual functioning. People need to understand that erection in men has a lot to do with a healthy heart, blood vessels and good blood flow. So anything that affects blood flow will definitely affect the erection.”
In his explanation on Health Site, he said further that Nicotine, a toxic oily liquid that is the chief active constituent of tobacco, could clog the arteries and restrict blood flow to the genitals, which would affect performance.
For couples aiming at pregnancy, Ramanathan said smoking could also lower a man’s sperm count; cause genetic damage to the sperm and reduce the ability of the sperm to swim to where it will fertilise the egg. And in women, it could also cause $ex-related problems, like reduced $ex drive, among others.
On smoking, Olamoyegun said the constituents of cigarettes can narrow the arteries and veins that supply blood to the p*nis. “Smoking causes vasoconstriction; narrowing the blood vessel, so, the amount of blood that goes into the Pen!s will reduce. And since the erection of the Pen!s has to do with blood flow, it may affect the man’s erection.
3. Eating too much or taking energy drinks:
No doubt, s*x is an activity that is very involving and tiring, and so it is not uncommon for some people to eat before $ex as if they are going to fight, especially men, all in the name of preparing for the act. But findings have shown that it is better to eat snacks, nuts or light food before doing ‘it’ to avoid feeling drowsy. In the same vein, experts have said that people should do away with heavy, gassy and high-fibre food to avoid frustrating the partner with a sluggish and poor performance eventually.
So, it is not the time to eat five wraps of heavy food like someone going to the war front. Also, it has been found that it is not advisable to take energy drinks. People do this to have some energy to ‘deliver’ but experts have said the impact may not last long and that it tends to leave the person tired and weak after a (short) while.

According to Olamoyegun, s*x, just like other forms of exercise, should not be preceded by eating heavy food. He said, “Normally, if you want to do any exercise, including s*x, you are not supposed to take any heavy meal, because doing so could lead to aspiration in the course of the activity; the food can come from the stomach to the air pipe, and that is not good. So, it is better to eat a light food.”
4. Masturbating:
This is one tactic some people use, usually done hours before the intercourse, so as to prolong $ex and it is mostly done by men who have premature ejaculation or women who crave prolonged s*x. They believe that having ejaculated (men) or reached orgasm (women) moments before the $ex would delay their next orgasm, but findings have shown that such can make erection almost impossible and the fact that it can kill $ex drive when it comes to having real intercourse with someone of the opposite s*x.
Ultimately, experts have found that masturbation can be addictive, and after engaging in it for a long time, such persons tend to lose interest in real s*x. So, to have a sustained healthy s*xuality, masturbating should not be an option.

Meanwhile, medical experts have advised that if a woman pees after s*x, it could reduce the likelihood of her getting urinary tract infection. They said the urine would have flushed out any bacteria present. It is not a must, but it is helpful.
Olamoyegun had this to say on it, “The vagina and the urethra are close, so after s*x, if you pee, you flush out the bacteria before it settles into the tract. You don’t necessarily have to do that but it could be helpful too.”

some thing guys truly don,t love about

Since the dawn of the sexual knowledge, there have been mythos that men find the intercourse sessions utterly ecstatic. Simply because women get pounded and men have their tool inside the pink slit of women does not always mean that men do not think of stopping the session and just lie down. (It’s highly exhausting for them)

Yes, it’s true. At times men get tired and really want to get off and pass out. There are so many things men hate about sex and as unbelievable as it may sound we actually got a whole list that will make you agree with us.
1. The Ups And Down Before Switching It On
Women think that the soldier gets up right away as soon as they touch a man but guess what! It doesn’t, I mean they go through many erections before they get themselve inside you and for them, it’s highly frustrating.
How? Well, remember? It starts with the kissing then some important talk barges in (The saluting worrier bows down), then second phase starts when you mutually touch chests (But hey! there’s always something that interrupts may be a pee break, a call or anything and the THING doesn’t stays up), then finally comes the phase where they get to enter the vertical lips but till then the Dick gets tired of lying flat and pointing up. At times they feel like calling a night.
2. Shoe to Shooo!!

Ever since Eve tasted the fruit of shame, it has been the ritual that when Sex happens, the man begins by taking off the clothes of the woman. The woman always unbutton the shirt but that’s it. Poor men, they have to take off their jeans and shoes and socks.

I mean in what world does that sound equal that a man can unzip a thousand pairs of women boots or remove their hundred types of footwear but a woman never unlaced a pair of her man’s shoes. It is just irritating to guys. Girls, don’t be so cruel.
3. Pointing And Peeing
No woman on earth knows the pain of peeing with a hard on because they never have to and it really sucks. When men have their dick pointed, their bladder locks up as it becomes prime to ejaculate and peeing in that situation hurts like hell.

The wait feels like forever as the flow never comes easily and women end up thinking that they are taking a dump. (Trust me he will rather take a dump than having sex after all that pain).
4. Should I Or Shouldn’t I
Women think men shoot the gun right inside them as soon as it is loaded but what they don’t know is that men have really hard time guessing when is the perfect time to go in and start the fire.

I mean 80% of the time they get it right but your V-zone doesn’t always give them enough hints and when they realise that they might have jumped in a dry pound, they feel stupid and regret doing it.
5. Holding The Major Wave
Women take their time to Orgasm but with all the turn on’s and ready to pound situation it is really hard for men to not come. The first minute of sex is the hardest as the trip and pleasure become too high for them but they can’t just unload because then they will be judged.

Holding the major wave is not at all easy for them, however when the rush passes it becomes better. So, ladies holding it for long may feel fun to you but it is never fun for them.
6. The Game Of Satisfaction
Women do not hold the right of getting disappointed in bed, men do get disappointed but they just find it unrespectable to say it out loud (They care about your feelings).

During the sexual encounter, they think about 80 more things that they would like to try or do (May be because they have seen it in some erotic porn) but let’s be serious, women mostly don’t get out of their comfort zone and they make peace with the minimum options of new things they get.
7. Never Letting The Truth Out
Men love to make their female partner orgasm (as hard as possible) but they do understand that one of the days it isn’t going to happen. When a woman says she can’t come, men listen and understand that but they would rather blow their chance of having sex than telling her that they can’t come.

Why? Well, it’s simple the rapid fire of questions won’t leave their side and the invasive drilling will drive them insane. Hence, they fake it. YES, they do, because telling you that they jerked off three times before invading your vagina is harder than faking an orgasm. (I bet you are still judging them)
8. Right Of Complaining
The worst part is that they can’t even complain about all the things that I have mentioned above. How can they, I mean we women always nag about more than 200 problems that we are going through and how on the earth, the person who is about to pound you will complain about anything that might make you sad.

I bet you never thought of these problems before but now that you know all of them try to make it as easier as you can for him.

Monday, March 20, 2017

three safety things you should not do after sex

For your own safety, make sure you avoid doing these three things anytime you finish having s*x.
*Photo used for illustrative purpose*
A Gynecologist Leslie E. F. Page, M.D. Women’s Health has revealed in details the three things you should never do after s*x for your own safefysafefy

“When the vaginal tissues have been lubricated, swollen, and rubbed against during intercourse, it changes how that tissue reacts to the environment. Primarily, you run a much greater risk of infection.” Leslie said.
According to The Sun, here are the three things to Leslie enumerated you must avoid after having s*x.
1. Soaping up
While you may feel the need to ‘freshen’ up after doing the deed – make sure you don’t use soap.
Lathering up your nether-regions will soapy products can cause irritation and you may even experience an allergic reaction.
“The vagina is a self-cleaning organ, and needs to be treated very, very gently—if you wouldn’t put it in your mouth, you shouldn’t put it in or around your v*gina,” adds Leslie.
If you do feel the need to wash – just use water.
2. Getting in a hot tub
Enjoying a post-coital soak in a hot tub may sound like an enjoyable, romantic experience – but it’s bad news for your lady bits.
“When your vulva swells in response to $exual stimulation, it reveals the opening of the v*gina, which means you have a greater chance of infection,” said Leslie.

“If you’re in a hot tub with your partner, that means you’re exposed to the bacteria on his skin and anus.”
3. Not weeing
Going for a wee after s*x isn’t just an old wives’ tale – it really is important.
Popping to the loo helps to clear away any bacteria that may have been pushed into your vagina mid-bonk.
Bacteria is bad news as it can lead to bladder infections – so try and nip to the loo within an hour after having s*x.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

the main reason why woman should always take off their bra immediately

Most women wear B.ras and most men think these to be S3@.x:’y. However, many ladies wonder if the B.ras can cause cancer and how they should be worn properly. Let’s review the facts!
Can B.ras cause cancer?
In 2015 a study was carried out on this subject. The scientists discovered that women, who regularly wear B.ras have higher risks of developing bre@.$t cancer than those, who never wear B.ras. Doctors related the results to how the B.ras are worn.
If it is too tight, it compresses the cells in your bre@.$ts. Thus, the blood inflow decreases and toxins remain in the B@.0bs being unable to flush out. We do not know for sure if this is the case, but wearing too tight B.ras is not a good idea. When you return home take it off and let the B@.0bs relax!
Major and fun B.ra facts:
– The first B.ra was introduced in 1907. They showcased it in the Vogue Magazine. It was called the B.rassiere.
– Young girls also wear B.ras, but after they start having period the bre@.$ts keep on growing for up to 4 years!
– Your B.ra should be washed at least once a week.
– You can wear this underwear item for up to 9 months.
– Over 80 percent of all women do not know how to pick the right B.ra size and thus wear the wrong ones.
– The cup sizing we use now was introduced back in 1935.
– Most women in Africa wear either B or A size of B.ras.
– The largest bre@.$ts are possessed by ladies from Russia!
– The smallest B.ra size is called AAA.
As you see, these facts provided on B.ra day are fun and some of them are useful. Stay healthy and take good care of yourself and your B.ra!

Saturday, March 18, 2017

some of the reason why christian woman will never marry

Don’t be impatient when choosing a helpmate. God has the right one for you.
My wife and I raised four daughters—without shotguns in the house!—and three of them have already married. We love our sons-in-law, and it’s obvious God handpicked each of them to match our daughters’ temperaments and personality.
I have always believed God is in the matchmaking business. If He can do it for my daughters, He can do it for you.
Today I have several single female friends who would very much like to find the right guy. Some tell me the pickings are slim at their church, so they have ventured into the world of online dating. Others have thrown up their hands in despair, wondering if there are any decent Christian guys left anywhere. They’ve begun to wonder if they should lower their standards in order to find a mate.
My advice stands: Don’t settle for less than God’s best. Too many Christian women today have ended up with an Ishmael because impatience pushed them into an unhappy marriage. Please take my fatherly advice: You are much better off single than with the wrong guy!
Speaking of “wrong guys,” here are the top 10 men you should avoid when looking for a husband:
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1. The unbeliever. Please write 2 Corinthians 6:14 on a Post-it note and tack it on your computer at work. It says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). This is not an outdated religious rule. It is the Word of God for you today.
Don’t allow a man’s charm, looks or financial success (or his willingness to go to church with you) push you to compromise what you know is right. “Missionary dating” is never a wise strategy. If the guy is not a born-again Christian, scratch him off your list. He’s not right for you. I’ve yet to meet a Christian woman who didn’t regret marrying an unbeliever.
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2. The liar. If you discover that the man you are dating has lied to you about his past or that he’s always covering his tracks to hide his secrets from you, run for the nearest exit. Marriage must be built on a foundation of trust. If he can’t be truthful, break up now before he bamboozles you with an even bigger deception.
3. The playboy. I wish I could say that if you meet a nice guy at church, you can assume he’s living in sexual purity. But that’s not the case today. I’ve heard horror stories about single guys who serve on the worship team on Sunday but act like Casanovas during the week. If you marry a guy who was sleeping around before your wedding, you can be sure he will be sleeping around after your wedding.
4. The deadbeat. There are many solid Christian men who experienced marital failure years ago. Since their divorce, they have experienced the Holy Spirit’s restoration, and now they want to remarry. Second marriages can be very happy. But if you find out that the man you are dating hasn’t been caring for his children from a previous marriage, you have just exposed a fatal flaw. Any man who will not pay for his past mistakes or support children from a previous marriage is not going to treat you responsibly.

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5. The addict. Churchgoing men who have addictions to alcohol or drugs have learned to hide their problems—but you don’t want to wait until your honeymoon to find out that he’s a boozer. Never marry a man who refuses to get help for his addiction. Insist that he get professional help and walk away. And don’t get into a codependent relationship in which he claims he needs you to stay sober. You can’t fix him.
6. The bum. I have a female friend who realized after she married her boyfriend that he had no plans to find steady work. He had devised a great strategy: He stayed home all day and played video games while his professional wife worked and paid all the bills. The apostle Paul told the Thessalonians, “If anyone is not willing to work, then he is not to eat, either” (2 Thess. 3:10). The same rule applies here: If a man is not willing to work, he doesn’t deserve to marry you.
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7. The narcissist. I sincerely hope you can find a guy who is handsome. But be careful: If your boyfriend spends six hours a day at the gym and regularly posts closeups of his biceps on Facebook, you have a problem. Do not fall for a self-absorbed guy. He might be cute, but a man who is infatuated with his appearance and his own needs will never be able to love you sacrificially, like Christ loves the church (Eph. 5:25). The man who is always looking at himself in the mirror will never notice you.
8. The abuser. Men with abusive tendencies can’t control their anger when it boils over. If the guy you are dating has a tendency to fly off the handle, either at you or others, don’t be tempted to rationalize his behavior. He has a problem, and if you marry him you will have to navigate his minefield every day to avoid triggering another outburst. Angry men hurt women—verbally and sometimes physically. Find a man who is gentle.
9. The man-child. Call me old-fashioned, but I’m suspicious of a guy who still lives with his parents at age 35. If his mother is still doing his cooking, cleaning and ironing at that age, you can be sure he’s stuck in an emotional time warp. You are asking for trouble if you think you can be a wife to a guy who hasn’t grown up. Back away and, as a friend, encourage him to find a mentor who can help him mature.
10. The control freak. Some Christian guys today believe marriage is about male superiority. They may quote Scripture and sound super-spiritual, but behind the façade of husbandly authority is deep insecurity and pride that can morph into spiritual abuse. First Peter 3:7 commands husbands to treat their wives as equals. If the man you are dating talks down to you, makes demeaning comments about women or seems to squelch your spiritual gifts, back away now. He is on a power trip. Women who marry religious control freaks often end up in a nightmare of depression.